Is it okey to wait tobe the 2nd wife after annulment?

[nesdel]

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I need your advice. The annullment hasn't started yet. I-process pa lang niya when he comes home this December kay tua man siya sa gawas nagtrabaho. I don't want to be a homewrecker. I told him to work things out w/ his wife but he said dli na gyud daw madala kay wala na sila respeto sa usag-usa. Mag-away lang sila pirmi. He married his wife only because he got her pregnant. His mother has even told him to leave his wife na kay dli na matulon ang batasan... Naglibog jud ko if wait ko niya kay dli bya ingon ana kadali magpa-annull. It will take years pa d ba?.... Please guys i need to hear ur valuable opinions...

[evs]

nesdel, there's always two sides of the story, ang nadungog nimo ang side ra sa lalaki wa ka kabawo unsa na katinood iya gisulti. ug mo wait ka imo na nga choice pero u have to face the fact that right now kabit ra gyud ka, harsh but true.

as for an annulment, it varies ang length, it can be 7 months to 2 years or more.....he better get a good lawyer and a good basis for an annulment and there's no guarantee baya gyud na ma approve nang annulment labi na di nya ma prove ang basis..

[nesdel]

i know that. I told him wala ko mangambisyon mahimong kabit! He just told me about the whole thing last night! I told him i want to talk to his mother and see his kids to judge for myself. He said nagpatukod siya balay para sa iya wife pra dli siya mahayan. 1 house in Manila on-going pa ang construction and 2 here.... He said he will process the annullment in 1 year and marry me in church next year. Sa huwes ra man daw sila gikasal...

[ross20]

hey girl, just let yourself out of the picture first..dili man gud makafocus ang guy to settle the relationship if your around..try to avoid him for a while or kung kaya nimo never nalang..an annulment is not a 100% guarantee on your part..mohabol jud baya na ang first wife or should i say ang legal wife specially naay mga kids..

[evs]

huwes or not the fact is kasal sya then naa pa gyud sya mga anak....kalooy sa mga bata....wa lagi ka nangambisyon nga makabit pero karon kabit gyud ka nya.....naa ra gyud nimo if you will buy his story, so hugti gyud na imo bakos ug magpadayon ka kay naa gyud masakitan hopefully dili ikaw....ibutang sad imong lugar sa asawa, unsa imo ma feel.....unya ka ingon ana man gani sya karon di kaha na nya buhaton pod nimo.....weigh things hard and make sure you do the right thing, if i were you i'll stay away from him pero imoha man nang life so ikw ray in control ana.

[Streetcar]

Nesdel, i see your situation. I think it will be better that you give him time to work out things for himself. After the annulment it will be better for him to be on his own for a while too because as in any divorce or separation it can take a toll on him so he needs that time and space to settle his life and emotions before you even think about living with him. For him to tell you that he is going to marry you i see his true intention otherwise i dont think a man will even utter those words. He needs time. Just give him that time and do nothing in the interim to make matters worse for him or he might change his mind about marrying you. If you have waited this long, you can wait longer if you really love him. Give him that time he needs to put his life back in order.

[digitalsuperman]

i think it depends.if the guy wanted to be with you then i guess he really wants to be with you.
and yes, you don't want to be a homewrecker, but i don't think you are.i think you are his light at the end of his tunnel.
you are the one who gave him hope to move on.do what you think that makes you happy.

[evs]

bitaw pod nesdel.....basin sakto pod give it time and space.....true love conquers all man kono......ug tinood na iya gipanulti he will keep his words but keep your eyes open.....

[Onins]

Most of the posts are idealist point of view, especially when they mention ang mga bata. Kani ako mgpakatutuo na lang ba. ur asking is it okay to wait? Yes it is ok to wait and it is the right thing to do, wait for the annulment before you guys get married. You really cant say na mas ok ang mga bata kung wala ka kay for all we know ang laki mangita na lang lain so pareho gihapon, they cant be reconciled naman kaha. In fact you can be a good tita to his kids, kadaghan na ing.ana situation worked out well.

[naomi6000]

Nesdel..frst get out of the pcture ky ig file nya ug anulment then maka hibaw ang iyang wife..e apil ka ug sopina..if magpa gahi gahi iyng wife then it wil take 4-8 yers para ma anuld..we dont knw pwde ka ipa CI sa iyng wife then that would be the basis sa anulmet..pwde paka pa byron ug damages sa iyng wife if ma proven..let say 200T-500t or more pa dpende na sa abogado..ma pogos ko ug hire ug atty. then dli na raba barato ang atty ron..afected ka fnancialy then ma da-ot pa imong name sa imong family and friend emotionaly ky nahimo ka ug kabit..after anulment naa ny legal fix sport para sa family..let say mag hatag siya ug 10-30t a month dpende na if unsa ang kasabotan sa abogado, depnde pila ka bo-ok iyng anak, asa skwela, ug mga monthly expenses sa wife..

Nesdel ask urself if kaya ba nimo mo adto ka sa witness stnd then e cros examine ka sa duha ka abogado? then naa ang family sa guy, family sa wife, fmily nimo na maminaw nimo? ug napay 5-8 na abogado, law studnts maminaw nimo? imong background labi na imong SEXLIFE otingkayon na ug maayo..d kaha ka ma owaw?

Once ig file sa lake ug anulment 80% ipa IC na sya sa iyng wife then sure ko ma picturan gyud mong duha...or aware na iyng wife ng naa ka ky sure ko sopinahan ka..dont think about ur wedding or those positve plans ninyo ky positive nana daan..think about all the hustle imng agi-an ky mau ranang butangga na mag antos ka..

d gyud na sayon imong gi sodlan, ug dli ni salida na happy ending permi.