Attn: Student/Teenagers/others..

[Kenah]

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I had a problem, I had a student freshman pa cya in UP Cebu taking up BS Biology she doesnt like this course coz she wanted to take up Chem E in USC. It happens she passed the DOST scholarship and she also passed the UPCAT in the course Of BS Biology. Her NCAE result was 99% her strongest was in Science ability and her weak was Math(95%). Did I make mistaked in convincing her to enroll in UP instead in USC and take up Chem. E. she wanted there coz most of her classmate in high school was enrolling there.
I choose UP coz we can save more in the tuition, I only pay P300. for the whole sem. My basis, in enrolling her to this course was her exam result. In fact, shes receiving an allowance of P3,000/month and P2,500 book allowance/sem.
Now, first sem is nearly to end she told me she wanted to shift another course,not in the field of science. Shall I agree to her and let her choose the one she wanted to. Her scholarship will be forfeited. Did I make a wrong decision for her? Pls. give your ideas.. I wanted the side of the students, the bagets......

P.S. my daughter's hobby d ay strumming guitar shes fan of Kitchie Nadal, she's also a church choir member as the guitarist in our parish.

[pruzchett]

always choose UP.

[rigormortis]

yaw xa ipa shift uy
mabaw ra iya rason kay naa iya mga amiga sa usc
pero ambot lng pud bsin mag rebelde

[onlyvic]

Im from UP. i guess you should make her decide for herself. you are there to guide the student. kay siya ra man sad ang mu-skul ug in the future ang mu-practice sa iyang chosen field. let her see the pros and cons for her to be enlightened..

[YJOB]

mam, ang akong mama hangtod pag-retire niya as School Principal naa pa gihapon nagpabilin iyang gamay nga pagmahay nganong nagbuot iyang lola sa una nga pakuhaon siya kurso maestra when she wanted commerce.

i mean this could be an important crossroad that will affect the entire life of your daughter.
don't spend your remaining years hearing frustrations from her tungod kay lahi ang iya nagustuhan nga kurso.

as her mother, all you have to do is lay out all the choices along with explanations, whether money issue, tuition price, industrial demand etc etc and let her choose where her heart belongs to.

she got impressive grades i know she will excel in any field.

good luck and congratulations for being such a good mother, i read your other thread.

[Kenah]

mam, ang akong mama hangtod pag-retire niya as School Principal naa pa gihapon nagpabilin iyang gamay nga pagmahay nganong nagbuot iyang lola sa una nga pakuhaon siya kurso maestra when she wanted commerce.

i mean this could be an important crossroad that will affect the entire life of your daughter.
don't spend your remaining years hearing frustrations from her tungod kay lahi ang iya nagustuhan nga kurso.

as her mother, all you have to do is lay out all the choices along with explanations, whether money issue, tuition price, industrial demand etc etc and let her choose where her heart belongs to.

she got impressive grades i know she will excel in any field.

good luck and congratulations for being such a good mother, i read your other thread.

Thanks for your ideas .... We decided to let her choose the course she wanted to and lay all the pros and cons....especially in tuition fee matters, coz I have also an upcoming college next year.Thank you and God Bless!

[vanguard]

One mistake that parents normally make is choosing the course for their children. I have experienced such dilemma too and spent more than 2 years in my first course before deciding to finally call it quits it and shift to another one (leaving my mom a bit disappointed). Normally, as freshies, students are still in the state where they really don't know that deeply where they are really inclined in, the world is still so small for them at that stage.

As somebody who has already taken that path (like your kid), I suggest you just let her decide on her own and support it. What parents might think as the best for their children might not be the best after all, there are things that might be better.

With your kid's grades, I suppose tuition fee won't really be that of a problem. There are a lot of scholarships. Just let her be where her heart is.

And by the way, my first course and school is BS Bio from UP Cebu.

[camille_16]

sayang kaayo kung moShift siya...
ayaw tug-ti sir/ma'am...

try to convince her/him more..

[JeffCee]

in situations like these, there are alot of options, and important decisions to make, cause these decisions hold the key to our future life, college, or i should say education prepares all of us for the benifits it implies in the end, in your case, it is really hard in your situation as a parent to make a dcision . but sometimes we need to be open to look for alternatives thats best for ourselves, and for your daughter ma'am. the stage of a teenager is identity vs. role confusion, we teenagers at certain points still dont see options, and still is nor pros in making decisions in life, in other words we are still dependent and trying to be independent.

i am a nursing student, i choose this course with my own desire to take it. i have alot of classmates that were forced to take up nursing with doubt in themselves of the course, and now they still have the frustrations but was able to cope up due to peers, and environment. with the case of your daughter, she wants to follow what her mind and heart desires, you try to ask her if she really wants to take that new course, and really pick out points to prove that it is really a good effect on her part. then as a parent you would really take in to consideration your childrens abilities, aspirations in that field of study. all parents aspires a lot of goals and plans for there children they are in a way correct but imperfections as a weakness could not be diminished in each and everyone of us, in my opinion, regardless of the scholarship she is holding now it would be best to talk it over,elaborate and extract facts , n take ample time to come up with the best output for your daughters future. i know good parents are always there to support there children unconditionally, i've experienced that myself, endpoint is if thats what makes her happy, and if that is what she really aspires and dream of then, if you know all the positive points or the reason behind it and if you think it is just right for her then, let her take the course. i hope i made sense..

i see you took her in to consideration, and pushed through with the shift good luck,.,