Matawag bang selfish akong ate?

[bondutch]

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ani na sya,halos tanan tingali gusto namo mag-igsoon gihatag n sa among mama ug papa kutob sa makaya nila
ang cors sa akong ate akong mama gabuot gikuha man pud nya maau man pud iyang mga grades
pero ambot ug ngano nga d gyud sila mgkasinabot sa akong mama.

gusto sa akong mama focus akong ate sa skul niya wa lng usa dw uyab2x ky aha raman dw ng laki inig human
namo ug eskwela,pero wa jud akong ate naminaw,nahiubos noon akong ate sa akong mama...

akong papa tawon ginasundo cya sa iya eskwela mapura ug hulat among amahan sa gate sa iyaha diay naa
na diay akong ate sa balay sa klasmate niya rison himo dw ug project,tarong ba na,maski man lng unta gatxt lng cya,wa dw pud cya lud...

unya karon ang ginaingon niya sa iyang mga klasmate ginatuok dw cya sa among mama ug papa
mura daw cya ug robot nah.
grabe ra pud gyud cya motubag sa among mama labi na sa among papa moingon nalang gud among papa sa iya nga "ayaw palabi ug tubag day ky ginikanan gihapon me nimo magabaan ka"wa ra pud akong ate.

tan-aw ninyo selfish ba akong ate?

[boyetzked]

natural ra na cguro basta higpit kaau ang parents..daghan ko kaila na ing.ani tungod sa kahigpit..

[mrs507]

wala jod ko magdaku sa ako parents kay nanglarga man tawn sila sa Saudi para maka-provide sa needs namong manag-suon. i was brought up by my lola ug mga uncles naku na by that time, mga ulitao pa sila. strikto pud tawn sila esp. duna daku rank ako lola sa Dept. of Educ. kung unsa ang disiplina nakuha sa ako mga uncles gikan pud sa ilaha parents before mao na amo na-experience. i have nothing against all of these kay kung dili pa higpit sila sa amo before, we (me and sisters) wouldn't be who we are right now.

maybe sa karon dili pa ni masabtan sa imoha ate but pray for her that she may be enlightened. sayop baya jod mosupak sa elders. been there and it was really bad. ug motuo bya jod ko if kung unsa batasan towards your parents or your elders mao pud ni ma-experience nimo in the future... you can call it karma or history repeats itself... that's why karon, i'm very careful in how i deal to my parents. i'm not saying i was really that bad before but nobody's perfect. i just want to avoid any instances that maka-experience kog bad relationship towards sa ako mga anak puhon...

be patient w/your sister. arguing w/her won't do good... she'll just snap out of it very soon and realize that kung unsa man gani treatment sa inyo parents karon, they're doing these para sa ikaayo ninyo... wala man jod ginikanan magbuhat ug ngil-ad sa iyaha mga anak bah esp if both are educated and well-mannered... PEACE!!!

[jjhen]

ako may ate...ambot lng..ask my lil sister...

[mrs507]

ATE man pud ko - hahahahha...

[cebu1029]

your ate is entering the "wanna be independent" phase in her life! alalay lang sa iyaha!

[irisiris]

You mentioned that your Mom chose the course for your Ate. Okay pud iyang grades. Question lang hah. Did your Ate took the course because she wanted to follow your Mom OR did she took the course because she doesn't know what course to take in the first place?

Uyab-uyab. How old is your Ate? Try talking to your Mom. Maybe the reason why nahiubos ang imong Ate because maayo ang guy peru your Mom fails to see this. Try talking to your Ate as well. Tell her na bahala masuko inyong Mama she has to let the guy visit sa inyong house. Ayaw pagtago tago. Kay sa tinuod lang whatever will happen to your Ate, kinsa man ang magsagubang? Asa man sya dagan? Dbah inyong parents gihapon?

Sa tinuod lang, sakto man inyong Mama. Kanang uyab uyab makahulat raman nah. Education is very important. Because ato-a biya ng future. We have to accept that our parents dili man permanente naa sa atong kilid. Your mom is just looking out for you. Your Ate has to keep in mind that your parents always wants what's best for you. Dili bah? Eversince we were small. Our parents muhatag gyud the best for us. That's why mu-guide sila natoh. Because ganahan sila nah bright atong future.

You know what, higpit mansad kaayo akong parents nako. Akong Mama pwerte mang mudisiplina. To the brink nga mura kog maboang. Peru karun nga medyo gulang nako, I really told my Mom gyud nga thankful kaayo ko sa iyang pagdisiplina nako. Karun, nakasabot ko kung ngano she did what she did..because she wants what's best for me.

Independence. I guess, all of us wants independence. But there's a difference between wanna be independent nga naay batasan, ug wanna be independent peru walay batasan. We want to be independent because we think we can handle it...because we think we are mature enough. Now, is being disrepectful a sign of maturity?

Another point is that imong Papa naghulat sa gate. Naa rah d-ay sa bahay sa classmate. Unsa may nakaon sa imong Ate intown. Naka-ako pud sya ug pagpahulat sa inyong Papa sa gate noh? Wala syay load? Do you think mahitabo nah? Naa syay bf, unsaon intown nya pagreply sa iyang uyab kung wala sya load? Asa man pud sya kuha sa iyang load? Sa inyong parents rapud. Nagpakita lang sya nga irresponsible sya. Kinahanglan unta nya ipakita nga she can be trusted, that she is responsible. Kaso, unsa man. Ang opposite man hinuon. And come to think of it, Ate unta sya. Dapat unta sya mu-set ug right example para ninyong mga manghud.

Mureklamo pah sya nga murah sya ug robot nga ginatuok sya? Maybe angay rapud siguro. Grabe mutobag? Sakto man imong Papa. Dili man gyud magsaba ang gaba. God forbid lang sad, but then will she realize everything.

I don't think your sister is selfish. But I'd say that she has issues with your Mom which I hope they'll settle them before the gap becomes too wide. God bless!

[angelfyre]

its like dis, murag sand ba. d more nga imong kuptan pag-ayo, molusot jud nuon. pero open ur palm n hold it as it shld be held, dli molapus.

natuok ra na imong ate.

[chormatus]

both your parents and your sister need to tallk about this issue. While your parents want to control your sister (because they think, it's best for your sister). your sister thinks she is treated like a robot.

They need to agree on which aspects of your sister's life can your parents control and which part should your parents put some slack. You mentioned about uyab-uyab... a parent cannot force her child not to go on uyab-uyab but they can counsel or guide her to choose the right person.

Your sister is in college... why would your dad "sundo" your sister from school? does she end her class late at in the evening? Your parents and your sister can come up with agreement that your dad can "sundo" her from school on classes that end after say, 6pm only. In return your sister will promise to inform your parents when she will go somewhere. Your parents needs to trust your sister at the same time your sister has to understand that she needs to respect her parents. What her parents is doing is our of their love for her. Open communication is very important to resolve this problem.

[shaxyra]

kasabot ko sa imong ate.. but she's not that bad.. she'll have to learn it on her own.. ate man sad ko.. i get everything i want plus only girl ko.. my parents expected so much from me and even if i failed them a couple of times grabe gihapon mo expect.. pero grabe sad kaayo sila nisabot.. it took us a while to communicate.. i've always been close to my parents pero kana ra jud ang d nako maingon nla.. natuok ko nla.. ok naman ron.. tuok ghapon pero im working on it.. working hard not to fail them again..