Is it okay to hold on?

[Alex Meng]

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Hi Guys,


newbie ko diri sa istorya, i was referred by a friend, i just would like to get some advice,
the situation goes like this, naa koy partner for 6 years and naa mi anak, when i met my partner broken hearted ko ato na time, in short murag ni jump ko from one relationship to another kani laging wasted kaau and we need divertion. mga 4 months mi uyab i got pregnant,
sa span sakong pregnancy wala mi nag *** which i understand kay bsin nahadlok sya or what, but until now dako nalang among anak toodler na wala nami ** i attempted to ask him in the first few years we were together but ang iyang reply is "mahadlok sya, gamay pa daw ang baby, blah blah," but after wala nako ni ask ug balik or ni iniate ug move, its like were living together but mura rag wala, d man sd ko batig nwong, and sure sad ko nga lalake ni akong partner, wala man sad koy nasense na my partner is cheating, (d sad nuon ko sure kay d raman sad ko mag mind kaau nya, like i dont bother checking his phone,) mo uli raman sd syag sa balay ug sayo, or usahay madgay sya sa work. actually dugay naman ko ka feel na wala nakoy love sakong partner, murag ni stick nalang ko tungod sa baby, and i can see man gd how close he is with his dad, factor nalang ng walay intimate contacts maong nadungan na nuon na sour najd akong feelings para nya. until such time i met someone whos older than me mga by 13 years actually im 28 na guys and hes 41, kani laging bored ka kay like ig abot nmu gkan sa office mika kaau, kapoyan nakag tan aw tv, ni adto kog social networking site and thats when i met him, at first tx tx me, at iyang pag kabaw at first is that tua sa layo akong partner and murag wala nami klaro, wala jd koy intention to meet him or what kay txtx ra lagi, pero as time goes by, i started to like him and we decided to meet, buotan sad kaayo sya, very understanding and all, he asked me if i can be his gf, and i told him yes, pero para nako bnuang rato, but i told him na unsa akong current situation and kung unsa akong pinag dadaanan sakong partner,ni ask ko nya na just give me time, to tell my partner na wala nakoy love nya and arrange ang among setup samong anak, he accepted it and understand my situation, he said he was willing to wait, mao to nag padayon among relationship, mu visit2x sya diri sa cebu kay na assign man sya sa lain place but within the philippines ragd, den if mag lakaw2x mi or manglaag mura ramig normal nga bf/gf, lahi rajd akong na feel na love towards nya, he showed me so much love maong na fall ko nya ug maayo and hes been so faithful sad, usahay naay times mag away mi kay feel nya nga wala daw ko ghmo na effort na para ma end ang usa, which is not true kay nangita raman jd kog timing, ako raman sad sya gpasabot,i believe so much na love kaau ko nya nga d nya kaya na biyaan ko, maong sometimes g na abuse nako ang power na ghatag nya nako, ang iyang mga effort g take nako for granted, without me realizing na ma puno jd diay tao and bation ug kapoi, ni abot jd ang time nga g kapoi na sya, ug nakigbreak sya nako through phone kay na assign naman pd syag layo, at first nakabntay nako na naay something but g ignore lang nako kay abi nako nangluod ra or what, but when i started to call him several times, sent him many txts d naman mo reply or modawat sa call, mao to i started to worry and think nasad, mao to nisend sya ug message nako na he cant do this anymore na daw, na murag wala jd koy effort, but he didn't know na i already told my partner na wala nakoy love nya, kay ako unta to sya isurprise ug storya, i told him about it and he said its too late na daw, mao to down kaau ko, theres no one to be blame but myself, also he told me na nibalik na dw sila sa ila kay ddto napd sya g assign and to his surprise his ex gf kuyg ilang anak naa ddto sa ilang balay, kay ang bata sge man daw pangita nya kay its been almost 4 years siya walay visit2x and dugay na silang buwag atong girl, (kabaw nako ani daan kay iya maning na open up nako, he didnt hide anything from me, he told me all about his past)
he explained na mao diay wala syay tubag2x sakong calls/txt kay he doesnt know unsaon ko nya pag tell cuz he knows i will be so hurt daw, mao to nagstorya mi and i asked him if pwedi mag balik mi, he told me na as of now murag kami pa ghapn pero wala lang sa daw label, murag exclusively dating, exclusive mi for each other, well see what the future holds for us ang peg, i also asked him if theres a chance na ma win back nako sya i asked him to rate if from 1-10 he said 5, he also told me na nothing is going on between him and the mom kay bisan pa daw naa ddto ang mom is para nalang jd daw sa bata ang tanan, dugay naman gd sila buwag mga 6 years na, d man sad sya pirmi ddto mag stay kay tungod sa iyang work and if matulog sla dili man daw sila magtupad sa mom, and love paman ko nya he said, and he we would still see each other paman daw, ang kapait lang is that, ang girl kay bantay salakay kunu kaayo, he asked me if its okay pa daw if d ko mu pm nya sa fb (d man sad mi friends sa fb nuon) or like mag viber mi call daw no more pm, okay ra nuon sa txt but maka kita najd ka na theres something change kay d na kaayo sya sweet mo txt or unlike before na kusug kaau sya mag update if nag unsa sya, hay nako.. ambot murag ang akong situation sauna sakong ex partner kay sa iya napd na happen, i mean kasabot ramo guys? nisugot ko sa iyang gusto nga ingon ato lang sami, kay love lagi nako kaayo sya, and he said na love paman ko nya, he also said na if kung wala na jd daw ko para sa iya, dili na daw sya mobother ug pakigstorya nako, he wouldnt care na daw, also i asked him if moabot sa time na papilion sya he said na he cant tell it as of now, he said that if mo abot nana sa ingon ana na time whatever it is tarongon daw na nmug storya in person. i just would like to get advice if okay ra ba akong gbuhat na to still hold on? or just fully let go nalang and accept what happen? as for me im stil hoping pero d lang ko maglaum, ni ana man pd sya na mo anhi daw sya sa cebu kay magstorya mi wala palang ko kabaw unsa na month, unsa man inyo ika advice? kung pwedi seryoso lang, thank you kaayo sa tanan. sorry if taas ra kaau!

[Passport]

Hi Guys,


newbie ko diri sa istorya, i was referred by a friend, i just would like to get some advice,
the situation goes like this, naa koy partner for 6 years and naa mi anak, when i met my partner broken hearted ko ato na time, in short murag ni jump ko from one relationship to another kani laging wasted kaau and we need divertion. mga 4 months mi uyab i got pregnant,
sa span sakong pregnancy wala mi nag *** which i understand kay bsin nahadlok sya or what, but until now dako nalang among anak toodler na wala nami ** i attempted to ask him in the first few years we were together but ang iyang reply is "mahadlok sya, gamay pa daw ang baby, blah blah," but after wala nako ni ask ug balik or ni iniate ug move, its like were living together but mura rag wala, d man sd ko batig nwong, and sure sad ko nga lalake ni akong partner, wala man sad koy nasense na my partner is cheating, (d sad nuon ko sure kay d raman sad ko mag mind kaau nya, like i dont bother checking his phone,) mo uli raman sd syag sa balay ug sayo, or usahay madgay sya sa work. actually dugay naman ko ka feel na wala nakoy love sakong partner, murag ni stick nalang ko tungod sa baby, and i can see man gd how close he is with his dad, factor nalang ng walay intimate contacts maong nadungan na nuon na sour najd akong feelings para nya. until such time i met someone whos older than me mga by 13 years actually im 28 na guys and hes 41, kani laging bored ka kay like ig abot nmu gkan sa office mika kaau, kapoyan nakag tan aw tv, ni adto kog social networking site and thats when i met him, at first tx tx me, at iyang pag kabaw at first is that tua sa layo akong partner and murag wala nami klaro, wala jd koy intention to meet him or what kay txtx ra lagi, pero as time goes by, i started to like him and we decided to meet, buotan sad kaayo sya, very understanding and all, he asked me if i can be his gf, and i told him yes, pero para nako bnuang rato, but i told him na unsa akong current situation and kung unsa akong pinag dadaanan sakong partner,ni ask ko nya na just give me time, to tell my partner na wala nakoy love nya and arrange ang among setup samong anak, he accepted it and understand my situation, he said he was willing to wait, mao to nag padayon among relationship, mu visit2x sya diri sa cebu kay na assign man sya sa lain place but within the philippines ragd, den if mag lakaw2x mi or manglaag mura ramig normal nga bf/gf, lahi rajd akong na feel na love towards nya, he showed me so much love maong na fall ko nya ug maayo and hes been so faithful sad, usahay naay times mag away mi kay feel nya nga wala daw ko ghmo na effort na para ma end ang usa, which is not true kay nangita raman jd kog timing, ako raman sad sya gpasabot,i believe so much na love kaau ko nya nga d nya kaya na biyaan ko, maong sometimes g na abuse nako ang power na ghatag nya nako, ang iyang mga effort g take nako for granted, without me realizing na ma puno jd diay tao and bation ug kapoi, ni abot jd ang time nga g kapoi na sya, ug nakigbreak sya nako through phone kay na assign naman pd syag layo, at first nakabntay nako na naay something but g ignore lang nako kay abi nako nangluod ra or what, but when i started to call him several times, sent him many txts d naman mo reply or modawat sa call, mao to i started to worry and think nasad, mao to nisend sya ug message nako na he cant do this anymore na daw, na murag wala jd koy effort, but he didn't know na i already told my partner na wala nakoy love nya, kay ako unta to sya isurprise ug storya, i told him about it and he said its too late na daw, mao to down kaau ko, theres no one to be blame but myself, also he told me na nibalik na dw sila sa ila kay ddto napd sya g assign and to his surprise his ex gf kuyg ilang anak naa ddto sa ilang balay, kay ang bata sge man daw pangita nya kay its been almost 4 years siya walay visit2x and dugay na silang buwag atong girl, (kabaw nako ani daan kay iya maning na open up nako, he didnt hide anything from me, he told me all about his past)
he explained na mao diay wala syay tubag2x sakong calls/txt kay he doesnt know unsaon ko nya pag tell cuz he knows i will be so hurt daw, mao to nagstorya mi and i asked him if pwedi mag balik mi, he told me na as of now murag kami pa ghapn pero wala lang sa daw label, murag exclusively dating, exclusive mi for each other, well see what the future holds for us ang peg, i also asked him if theres a chance na ma win back nako sya i asked him to rate if from 1-10 he said 5, he also told me na nothing is going on between him and the mom kay bisan pa daw naa ddto ang mom is para nalang jd daw sa bata ang tanan, dugay naman gd sila buwag mga 6 years na, d man sad sya pirmi ddto mag stay kay tungod sa iyang work and if matulog sla dili man daw sila magtupad sa mom, and love paman ko nya he said, and he we would still see each other paman daw, ang kapait lang is that, ang girl kay bantay salakay kunu kaayo, he asked me if its okay pa daw if d ko mu pm nya sa fb (d man sad mi friends sa fb nuon) or like mag viber mi call daw no more pm, okay ra nuon sa txt but maka kita najd ka na theres something change kay d na kaayo sya sweet mo txt or unlike before na kusug kaau sya mag update if nag unsa sya, hay nako.. ambot murag ang akong situation sauna sakong ex partner kay sa iya napd na happen, i mean kasabot ramo guys? nisugot ko sa iyang gusto nga ingon ato lang sami, kay love lagi nako kaayo sya, and he said na love paman ko nya, he also said na if kung wala na jd daw ko para sa iya, dili na daw sya mobother ug pakigstorya nako, he wouldnt care na daw, also i asked him if moabot sa time na papilion sya he said na he cant tell it as of now, he said that if mo abot nana sa ingon ana na time whatever it is tarongon daw na nmug storya in person. i just would like to get advice if okay ra ba akong gbuhat na to still hold on? or just fully let go nalang and accept what happen? as for me im stil hoping pero d lang ko maglaum, ni ana man pd sya na mo anhi daw sya sa cebu kay magstorya mi wala palang ko kabaw unsa na month, unsa man inyo ika advice? kung pwedi seryoso lang, thank you kaayo sa tanan. sorry if taas ra kaau!

Life is too short to waste on a promise... Let it go ... let it go..

pour all your focus sa imong anak na lang...

good luck

[durfritz]

Ahm TS, TBH we have similar situation before and I'm happy that I moved on, also naa pd nako akong baby girl which is rare kay laki ko and she's already 6 years old, her mum left us when she was 3 months old.

Akong g buhat atong tyma kay g spend ra nako akong time sa akong baby. I bought her clothes treat her anywhere picture d2 picture doon haha btaw nalingaw raman ko, and instead of wasting my time thinking of those 2 girls nga same rajd nimog situation. Ako nalang g work and future sa akong baby I mean Ni work kog maayo buy her anything she want's but naay limit h para d ma spoil


btaw TS, unaha lang sa imong anak oist ayaw sa anang gugma2x maka move on raka ana and keep your self busy all the time. Kung ma pul.an ka sa balay (D man jd na malikayan) spend time with your friends and get along

- Reflect and move on AJA!

[jiax]

btaw TS dli sad na lalim ang imong gi agi.an nga situation. torn between to guys gyd ka ana nga story. to cut the story short leave it and move on, focus on the kid nlng kay for now mao na ang pinaka important krn.

[joshua259]

just let go TS... unless you wanna take the chance but your chance ani nga situation is slim to none.

[chL0e]

slim kaayo ni ug chance. If wala na sila sa mom sa iyang baby, nano mag sige pa man bantay ang mom sa baby nya and nano d man kaayo ka niya ipa text or what? Kay mahadlok xa masakpan pud sa iyang baby mommah? Gusto niya ikeep mong duha. Panigurado nang iya. Kung kaya nimu ana and hope na maka realize xa na ikaw iyang pili.on soon, stay pero if di na, awh. .buhii. naa na bitaw kay anak. mao lang sah nai ifocus.

[jiax]

mao gyd focus nlng gyd sa imong baby which is your 1st priority. if naa man gyd gani chance then let them show it nlng kay if ikaw ang mag apas murag 0 to none ang chance

[Alex Meng]

hi guys thank u kau sa inyong mga inputs, it helps me a lot, sakto jd slim najd ang chance, kay mo ana man sya na what if in the end mag friends nalang mi, okay ra ba daw, and torn pasad sya kay lagi tungod sa iyang anak, well if its for family i can give way, ako lang sa sguro i observe ang situation kay bag o paman, i hope ma okay rajd ko, lisod oi as in lisod kaau jd, ill focus nalang sakong anak, paita baya aning gugma tawn..

[Passport]

hi guys thank u kau sa inyong mga inputs, it helps me a lot, sakto jd slim najd ang chance, kay mo ana man sya na what if in the end mag friends nalang mi, okay ra ba daw, and torn pasad sya kay lagi tungod sa iyang anak, well if its for family i can give way, ako lang sa sguro i observe ang situation kay bag o paman, i hope ma okay rajd ko, lisod oi as in lisod kaau jd, ill focus nalang sakong anak, paita baya aning gugma tawn..

at least naa man kay anak nga nagkinahanglan sa imong focus and attention .. you will be ok.

[<SMILE>]

Everyone do aspire for a perfect romance, but sad to say if one is not careful enough it will just end up being abused,I think you are not among the exceptions. Just pick up the pieces and things learned and move on and be wiser the next time you indulge yourself, it will be harder the next time but I'm sure you will be wiser enough to handle it.