There is no reason to be disappointed if he's gay. Yes, his life will be difficult. The hard times will make stronger and more loving person. Regardless of how he identifies himself sexually, he can feel the same way about his life and there's plenty of struggle for every life- gay or not. I won't try to change him. I can guarantee you he already hates himself because we live in a society where my community is often treated as beneath murderers and rapists- and believe me. Yes, people may not like it, well they can deal with it. I will definitely support him, love him, and keep your own feelings. see?.. If his loved ones show your disappointment in him, he will be too. I'll let him know I love him no matter what and that I am here for him through anything.I won't try to "straighten him out" because that won't work and that could lead to resentment. I just make sure my son is prepared for that if or when he does come out in the open.