I went to your wedding

[Bromikel]

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the world never ends bro. hehehe maynta ....

[dearlabe]

@dearlabe, kung ingon ana lang kadali ang tanan, di na mosikat ang mga "sad love songs" like "I went to your wedding", "25 minutes too late", "iris", "lips of an angel"...

sorry gud kung ang amo love life dili parehas sa imo ka nindot...
sorry gud kung ang amo nagustuhan dili kami ang gipili

sakit kaayo hunahunaon nga ang usa ka tao miingon nga gihigugma ka niya pero ngadto siya miuban sa lain...
nakasuway ko ana maong kabalo ko sa feeling... mas isog lang ang TS kay sa nako kay miadto jud siya sa kasal....

sakit! subrang sakit.... pero wala koy mabuhat... asa may akong pilion? ang akong kalipay?
kung muadto ko sa kasal para mosyagit og "undanga ang kasal!", di kaha iskandalo ray makuha nako??
in the first place kung gusto jud ko sa babae, dili siya magpakasal sa uban...

ideal ra kaayo na nga situation nga inig babag nimo sa kasal, muuyon nimo ang tanan...
sa tv ra na mahitabo...

I'm so sorry about what happened to you, young man. I know dli lalim gyud na. But sometimes you just don't have to "wait and see" on what happens to something or someone you truly care about- most especially if she's about to be wed.

My point is that, if it takes you to steal a scene in the church just to make her realize and feel that you are seriously wanting to stop her from marrying, then by all means DO IT. If it takes your life to make her know how much you love her then you should do it. We all have but one life to live. Why live with regrets on "what ifs" and "what should have beens"?

Look at the TS now? Can't you feel how regretful he is? Not because he has done everything but because he has done NOTHING. Why don't you ask your beloved TS if he really has attended the wedding? I really doubt if he did. Or would you want me to ask him myself?

And oh btw, I love those songs you mentioned too. It reminds me of you. Hehehehe.

[reigel99]

^^^ mao nay giingon nga lahi lahi jud ta og panan-aw sa life.... The so called "what ifs" and "what should have beens" will always be there... You could always regret life... or! you'll just have to accept consequences in all your actions....

"what ifs" and "what should have beens" will always be there.... sure ko ana... bisan unsa pa imong buhaton...


basta ako, di lang kaugalingon nako akong hunahunaon permi.... mas okay nako nga ako ra ang mag-guol, basta malipayon lang ang akong hinigugma...

I learned this the hard way...
first nako nga babae... inlove kaayo ko niya... that was college days....
nanguyab dayon ko niya... kay mitoo lage ko sa love at first sight...
wala ko niya sugta kay awkward ra kono kaayo and etc....
wala ko muundang... ako gibuhat ang tanan...
as in tanan paagi na akong mahunahunaan...
nigamay gud akong grado tungod ato...
2 years nako nga pag panguyab niya una ko niya gisugot...
sa kadtong adlawa, lipay kaayo ko...
pero 3 days ra me... wala magdugay...
sa among panagbuwag, 3 days ko nga naghilak... walay tarong kaon.... nagpakilooy niya...
namugos... hangtod miabot na sa part nga murag ang akong gugma na ang iyang gikahadlokan...
then someone told me... "reigel, you don't know how to love!"
suko kaayo ko sa iyang giingon... di daw ko kamao mahigugma nga gibuhat na gani nako ang tanan?

it took me months para maka-realize....
I was too selfish...
ang akong "gugma" ra ang akong gihunahuna...
wala ko maghunahuna sa kung unsa ang iyang gibati...
napasakitan na diay nako siya nga wala ko kabalo....
wala ko musabot sa sitwasyon...
naay mga time diay nga maghilak siya... wala lang niya gisulti nako...

mao to ang akong first relationship... makaingon jud ko nga daghan ko og sayop...
ang di jud nako makalimtan, ang gisulti sa akoa, "reigel, you don't know how to love!"

well, just sharing.... the world is full of surprises man pud...
we just have to accept the consequences sa atong mga ginabuhat....

[babyberto]

There are lucky ones that are gifted with good looks and mostly enjoyed life.
There are those who are willing to wait pero ulhi na ang tanan.
There are those who aren't very luck bsag unsa pa ila taboo nga buhaton.
Ana ang life og lahi2x pud ang kina-iya sa tao.

[dearlabe]

Thanks for sharing reigel99. It takes so much courage to be where you were those trying times in your love life. It's the lessons in life and loving that make us stronger and lead us to where we are now. Indeed, we are responsible of the choices that we made because they could either make or break us. Bottom line, we have to consciously make these choices because only we are responsible of our own heartaches and happiness:P

[kuyabog]

@reigel99: thanks for sharing bro. you have gone through so much, all in the name of love and loving. there will be a time for you to be happy. someday, someone will cross your path and stay. i refer you the thread by farmboy, about the goodbye letter, "When love comes, one has to decide for it comes not in wondrous galore like Leonid’s meteor shower".. so be ready. be strong.

@dearlabe: lets say for example you were the woman in the wedding, and here i suddenly appear among your guests as you commit your vows with your husband, what would be YOUR reaction upon seeing me right there in that church? i am just curious, if it was you..and if it was me.. kuyabog

[reigel99]

let me share pud about "sand in hand"

Relationships -of all kinds- are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.

[xinevirtucio]

Let me related this post to the things that happened to my life.

I have loved and lost...I have loved 6 guys (including my fiancee)...

Each of them have their strengths and weaknesses...each of them have their own set of good qualities and bad qualities...

I loved them in the best way I know how...

But if anyone of them would show up to my wedding...while I'm making the promise to love and cherish my partner forever....

I will not shed a tear....i knew each one of them...i never hid anything from them..i showed them my worst..and they failed to accept me for who I am...(even the guy i thought was the love of my life)

if i see anyone of them at my wedding..all i can say is..too bad....i already found someone better...

i am a hopeless romantic..but i keep my wits about me even when i say i'm blindly in love...

this has always been my philosophy....if anyone cannot accept me for who i am especially at my worst..then they are not worth it...

in short...I have no regrets I already found the one for me....

ang masulti nako sa imo thread bro,

do not dwell on the past. What's over is over. Spilled milk is spilled milk. It may be easier than done...but, do you have any other choice...

To fight for a love you think you deserve and wreck a marriage is selfishness. We do not know why she decided to marry him rather than you. But if you she made that decision freely...then may she realized that you are not the one for her...

sad...but may be..may be...it is true....

[kuyabog]

Oh my gosh.

Thanks to Reigel99, Dearlabe, and Xine, this thread has become a profound discussion on love, loving, and finally tying the knot. I appreciate your sharing and your inputs guys.

There are just so many what if's and we are responsible for each and every choice and decision we make. This heart of mine will only love just one, and she knows that, though she married another.

As for me, I will love her forever, and I do not owe this world an explanation, much less a justification.

[xinevirtucio]

murag ana nalang jd ang show kuyabog...

pero...i'm praying nga dili lang pud nimo sirad-an imong kasing2x