Your Lover's A Cheater? What would you do? Why?

[azwethinkweiz]

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love is not blind, it sees but it never mind.

May ka oi, laki man unta magbinuang karon, pero nano sha man intawn?

Kay maybe insecure sha ato na time, she thought you've taken her for granted and lots of things running in her mind. Like ga unsa ka while wa ka sa iyang kiliran to show love or show care, so that's why nadala sha, pero nakaingon ko humok ra jud kaayo sha, di sha ka resist sa temptation.


Rare na kaayo na mga guys karon mga resist temptation para lang sa iyang minahal. (saludo ko nimo sir)

Pero ikiha na sha dong, adultery na iyang gibuhat, kay minyo man kaha mo. Pero kung love nimo sha, willing ka mo sacrifice and forgive her? pero I know bsag unsaon mo trigger jud na sa utok nimo di jud na nimo malimtan. Sakita ana oiiii ka "OUCH bya ana oi...... Traidorrrrr sha na girl.

[comicGeek]

Tide is turning lagi. Unfair kaau. Sa mgalaki nga nag tinarung pa gyud mahitabo. Gi sacrifice namo ang tanan para sa hinigugma pero mgaingun niani ang kapalit? Basin seguro ang ganahan nga laki sa kasagrang babay karon kau kanang klasing manuwa-ay?

[mikhail]

thats part of her game!.. you might wanna make your own game...

[rodsky]

Like I've been saying in another thread here, aside from financial issues, things like "sacrifices" are the primary cause of unstable and unhealthy relationships...why? Somewhere down the road of togetherness, in ANY relationship, there will come a time that both parties will start to "tally" the sacrifices they made just so that they would stay together as a couple, to a point that they would start to actually use these as "grade points" on who has the greater right or who's needs should be addressed, because you feel nga dapat proportional sa imong sacrifices ang imong "share"... and it all turns ugly sooner or later...which is the sad part.

So again (sigh) I restate that, I believe in a relationship where both parties are happy because both are not insecure of themselves, mature enough to admit their weak points, give space to each other's little idiosyncracies...to me, relationships like this stand a better chance of survival kaysa katong sige'g "I will sacrifice this and that for you!" type of relationships.

I will not stop my rant on this because I truly believe this is the better path to happiness amidst all the "love-borne miseries" that are occurring in our world today.

-RODION

[mikhail]

thats part of her game!.. you might wanna make your own game...

or play with her own game!

[comicGeek]

so basically if you are sacrifising for the people that you love insecure ka sa kugalingon?

[comicGeek]

And also di gyud diay magdugay ang true love? Bound to be broken guid diay? So basically what God did for us- dying for us is all for naught? And he should not have done it?

I believe loving is only done the right way and sacrificing for the one you love is one of showing it. Loving cannot lie in compromises.

[rodsky]

so basically if you are sacrifising for the people that you love insecure ka sa kugalingon?

There is a big difference between romantic love and brotherly love for your friends and family, in that the latter doesn't involve any act of procreation. When you make sacrifices for brotherly love, there is no insecurity involved because complex issues like the possibility of producing offspring is not involved in the agenda. When you have things like *** and reproduction introduced into the fray, the whole picture becomes more complex and yes, insecurity is introduced...why? Because that's how nature meant it to be--insecurity is a byproduct of the need to survive, and thus sometimes, when it gets blown out of proportion, makadaot dyud sa general well-being of a person. The lame solutions therefore, that mankind has offered, to relieve this natural stress, is in the form of alcohol, drugs, and whatnot. I have no arguments against brotherly and friendlyy love...but romantic love, especially the kind that tends to border on "control" and "sacrifice" is a definite no no to me, because it will just clash with the predefined insecurities that all humans posses when confronted with issues such as ***, reproduction, raising offspring, and territoriality/custody.

I see you added stuff to your post, mainly spiritual love. Now tell me, when Jesus said he loved us and sacrifice His love for us, did that love involve ***? See what I mean now? So love with reproductive consequences is a TOTALLY different thing because--again I restate--it involves issues such as ***, reproduction, raising offspring, and territoriality/custody.

-RODION

[mikhail]

And also di gyud diay magdugay ang true love? Bound to be broken guid diay? So basically what God did for us- dying for us is all for naught? And he should not have done it?

I believe loving is only done the right way and sacrificing for the one you love is one of showing it. Loving cannot lie in compromises.

nosebleed ko ani.....

[comicGeek]

so basically you are saying insecure ko cause i'm willing to sacrifice for the one i love?

Sacrifices: go to her sisters place to get to know them, help in making reports, encourage her in times of stress, etc etc.

Should i stop these things cause its a sign of my insecurities?