Asawa, nawong ug kwarta?

[sharemeg]

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kamong mga lalaki, dapat gyud tagaan nyo manoey ang nyo wife para dili sya managyo.. pasalamat pod mo nya kay kung wala pa sya dili baya mo maminyo...

[Ms.Beau]

Well considering that all the financial needs in the family are met by the husband and the wife also got her job and still forcefully she asked for money, what do you call that? the arrangement is that they spend their money individually in other words angkonay sila sa gastohon sa balay but the wife gets mad whenever the husband didn't give her money during bonuses.

mao nay gitawag nga "way klaro ang sabot". sa sunod, pa notaryuhan jud na sa abogado para way lalis.

[Generals]

it really depends on what she is using the money for, right?

if its for the family (like food, rent, clothes), unless otherwise

[monokuro]

hala kamahal baya sa panaliton ron so dapat ra jud ngayo og kwarta oi. lisod baya budget kung kulang kwarta

[clarkhkent]

hey, what can u say about wives who always ask for money from their husbands? is this true?

kon wala cguroy trabaho ang asawa di adto gyud na sa bana mangayo kaysa adto sa laing taw....pero kon naa gani trabaho ang asawa ok ra sad cguro mangayo sa bana pero dili lang sad palabian oy kay ikaw bay way kwarta mag suroy2x sa colon mka pandol pa lang kag baligya....na priso gyud ang labas....

[Gwynhuever]

ka way klaro...ang-ang asa mangayo nga pa undangon man ug trabaho kay laba,luto,bantay bata etc...

1 - dili man sa nawong ug cuarta...pero naa needs ang babaye nga specific nga di masabtan sa mga lalaki and i-interpret dayon as usik2....parehas ra sad na nga di mi ka sabot unsa jud na ka nindot anang sige hapyod sa manok and adto sa derby

2 - do not generalize...a lot of women nowadays are very independent....so kon di mo kadawat nga independent ang wifey and mo insist on working...ayaw na lang reklamo kon ngayo money from you (including to finance her "kapritso") kay inyo man gi pa undang trabaho aron mahimong "plain housewife" ...pastilan

nya unsaon ta man ning mga bana nga gi pang buhi sad sa asawa...di na lang nato storya-on? he he he

[dexterdal]

^^ correct gwyn

[d`monyita]

i really believe that since finances gyud ang one of the major major sources of fights that might lead to separation/annulment...there should be a very very very in-depth discussion of the couple about it BEFORE they go into marriage.

i read somewhere that there should always be a PRE-NUPTIAL AGREEMENT... not the pre-nup na in the sense of kana richy richy people ha... but in the sense of... what you are CURRENTLY responsible for in your house (like supporting your parents, siblings, etc) and what you should be responsible for na once u marry.

i think that Biblically speaking, once you marry, your PRIMARY responsibility is your new nucleus of a family... especially if there are kids involved. i think it is UNFAIR for your parents and siblings to expect that you will still fully support them. (in the first place...parents should always prepare for their retirement so that they wont be a burden to the kids and not keep on making anak and anak so that madaming support sa ila when they grow old. i think the Bible states that the "prudent man leaves an inheritance for his children and his childrens' children." or something like that. and not inherit the utang for crying out loud!)

there should be a kwentas-klarex of how much each one earns...and what-have-you payables that you currently have. i think both parties should AGREE that they add together their earnings every sweldo and DRAW FROM IT the amounts to be paid for the rent/amortization of the house, food expenses, schooling and allowance of the kids, clothing, investments like life insurance, etc etc that they BOTH will benefit from.... and agree also to both DRAW AN ALLOWANCE for the next two weeks (or until the next sweldo)...and the remaining money they keep in a bank account for rainy days.

THAT IS IF BOTH ARE WORKING...

if the husband is the only one working.... then the man should still give an allowance sa wife kay it is a way of saying THANK YOU for taking good care of the house and the kids. it is not sweldo per se but a means of showing your gratitude sa imo homemaker.

as to bonuses..... well.... why shouldnt u share if there is bonus? isnt it hers too? di ba the two shall become one man kaha ni?

as i said.... better talk about BEFORE MARRIAGE.... and go a step further gani... PUT IT ALL DOWN ON PAPER para u can throw it to her face OR vice-versa when one of u nilihis sa usapan.

hehehehe... here we go again beau.... and btw... i am not married BUT i have seen many marriages go up in flames because of finances.

one does not have to have burns to know that flames can be deadly.

[SMOKOYZKIE]

ka way klaro...ang-ang asa mangayo nga pa undangon man ug trabaho kay laba,luto,bantay bata etc...

1 - dili man sa nawong ug cuarta...pero naa needs ang babaye nga specific nga di masabtan sa mga lalaki and i-interpret dayon as usik2....parehas ra sad na nga di mi ka sabot unsa jud na ka nindot anang sige hapyod sa manok and adto sa derby

2 - do not generalize...a lot of women nowadays are very independent....so kon di mo kadawat nga independent ang wifey and mo insist on working...ayaw na lang reklamo kon ngayo money from you (including to finance her "kapritso") kay inyo man gi pa undang trabaho aron mahimong "plain housewife" ...pastilan

nya unsaon ta man ning mga bana nga gi pang buhi sad sa asawa...di na lang nato storya-on? he he he

aw sala ra nas babae kahibaw siyang way trabaho ang laki, pagitik gihapon...

[nab_uang]

normal rani oi.... hehehe...

mao bitaw ning naa sa kasal, kanang ihatag sa groom ang aras sa bride... pasabot ang sweldo sa bana ipiyal jud ngadto sa asawa...

PERO!!!... dili tanang sweldo ihatag sa asawa ha!!! ang BASIC PAY ra jud!!!.... ang mga OVERTIME ug SIDELINE imong tapigan...

hibaw kana ang asawa pud, mosikrito baya na sila palit og BLOUSE....