Originally Posted by
aridoasis
Hope to get some advice from fellow istoryans...
I caught my dad cheating - that's the short version.
Many times, my dad leaves his cellphone at home, and asks me to take his calls for him. One day, I received a call from an unknown lady looking for "hun". She talked to me, assuming I was my dad because I kinda sound like him over the phone. Well she was all mushy and I didn't know how to react, so I told her she got the wrong number and put down the phone. She kept on calling and calling but I never picked up, until she quit it. The nosy child that I am, I snooped around my dad's cellphone and hit the mother load - several sms exchanges containing terms of endearment, sexual invites, an much much more - from different women dating back to years before. Students, hookers - you name it. He's giving cellphones, allowances, and other stuff too, stuff he wouldn't even think twice of giving to his children. I didn't know how to handle it, so I just kept it to myself.
--- That was 4 years ago.
Since then, I continued snooping around and he's still at it, with different women for periods of time. Well, I couldn't stand it anymore and told him that I knew what he was doing and told him that it disgusted me. He went all self-righteous telling me I had no right to do anything, and wouldn't admit to his wrongdoings - a lot of harsh words were exchanged. At this point in time, I learned that my mom also found out about his extracurricular activities, and he's blaming her that it's her fault that I found out. I also learned that that what my mom knew about was only of the present girl he was having an affair with - his secretary. So, I told him that I knew more than what he had expected, more than what mom knew, but haven't told her, and we stopped speaking to each other. And he calls me stupid and mistaken to defend my mom - to think, from groceries to tuition fee's, my mom handles them all - even buying his underwear. My mom, being a genuine mother, opted for reconciliation for the sake of my two siblings, and at the moment, we all still live under the same roof, only my mom and me knowing my dad's doings.
--- That was 2 years ago.
Right now, the family looks fine, except for that fact that my dad and I haven't spoken a single word to each other. I try to avoid him as much I can coz I can't stand being around him. He's with the family more often, and spends a lot more time with mom - or so I thought.
Two weeks ago, I'd found his mobile left behind when he went of to work. Someone was calling - his colleague, and I informed him that the phone was left behind. Taking the opportunity, I did some snooping, and again found a dozen or so messages exchanged within the last few days containing terms of endearment, sexual invites, an much much more, now from a sender whose name is only 3 letters. I checked the number and for sure, it wasn't my mom's.
He's up to his dirty doings again. I'm 22 and I'm powerless to do anything. I don't wanna see my mom hurt again, but I guess it's inevitable that she will find out what's going on sooner or later. If she's break up with my dad, the salary I'm earning wouldn't be enough to support my mom and my siblings.
I'm the only one who knew about this, and now, you, my fellow istoryans, know too. The are some details I left out - it was already painful enough having to refer to him as 'my dad' while I wrote this post.
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