not disappointed, but rather a great challenge
not disappointed, but rather a great challenge
im proud to be the youngest among my sisters yet im the bread winner.
although makafrustrate somrtimes kung di nako makuha ang gusto sako parents, like their farm aninals and apo from me (kay ako ra samong tulo mag igsuon ang wala kaminyo bisan lapas nag 21 therefore wala pa kahatag ug apo kay lami pa ma single)
i feel invincible amd fulfullied each time makita nako sailang faces ang contentment and specially if they thank you for the blessings you bring home to t after a hard days' work....i feel like a hero for them...
Isip kamagawungan ug maoy gesaligan sa pamilya gi sakrispisyo ang kaugalingong kalipay para mo suporta sa pamilya para sa akoa isip bread winner wala nako mahayi,wala nako basula akong ginikanan nga gi anak meng pobre gi sakripisyo nako akong kaugalingong kalipay para di mabahin akong oras..pero bisan paman happy ang makita nemo emong pamilya na malipayon bisan paman sa ka pobre.
this is the situation of my hubby right now...its not totally siya ang breadwinner.
i'm not against helping your family...pero kung minyo nasad...cguro naa puy limitations bsag wala pa moy anak...kami newly married pa lang mi sa akong hubby...before wala pami mag minyo...
cya ngpa skul 100% sa iyang younger bro, unya nghatagan pa jud xa sa iyang mama og 3k/month...lahi pa jud ng ginagmayng grocery.
karon nga minyo nami...still kami ghapon ngpa skul sa iya bro...same ghapon og hinatagan adto sa iyang mom.
then it came to a point nga feeling nako too much nasad nga support ang ghatag sa akong hubby oi...mag unsa na lang mi ani kung niana ghapon nga style ang sitwasyon namo...dili mi mka sugod og tigum kay perming hurot binudget sa kwarta...mao tong ni reklamo na jd ko...ako gi-ingnan ako hubby nga dapat naa nay limit atong hatag...kay dili ta mka sugod sa atong family life kung niana ghapon atong support.may man iyang bro bata pa...kami tawn nag apas sa edad kay lapas nag calendar nag minyo.
wala pa gud mi mag baby upto now kay can't afford nga dunganon ang mga gastuhon...ako gi-ingnan akng hubby...unya nata mg baby inig graduate imo bro...kay di ko gusto anang ahaton nato og dunggan unya ma compromise akong pg buntis...and i demanded nga dili ko mg package...mg specialista jud ko...coz we can afford man og specialista...mg package jud ko aron masulod sa budget...bahala uroy cla.
basta para nako naay limitation ang pag support...kung imo ihatag tanan unsa na lay mahabilin para imo self.
Everything has an end. But the sad thing is, ilang pagtuo kay nagdinawo naka nila. Ilang pagtuo daug kas imong asawa/bana or imong asawa/bana naman kontrabida. So, how do you take this situation. Maipit gyud gyud sa kahimtang. Hopefully, in the long run this kind of situation mausab ra.
sometimes kapoy manpud mahimong bread winner..
pro saon taman, kailangan manjud mo tabang..
unsa imong ma feel as a bread winner actually depends on the people you are helping with..
in my part, it's not really that disappointing.. although 3 mi kbuok nag work for our family, but they mostly depend on me because im earning way higher than my bro and sis.. im giving like 1/2 of my salary sa akong family.. the rest, ako.a nah pang allowance pra until next pay.. di pa jud ma ma limpyo nga katunga jud kay mag hatag pud ko ug gnagmay kng mhurot na to akong ghatag sa akong mama.. there are times nga mka think pud ko "dili pa d.i to enough akong gihatag?" and somehow mka feel pud kog disappointment.. but i like the thought of doing it specially if mkita nako nga worry-free na akong mama because nabayaran nah tanan knahanglan mabayaran.. and i always make sure to treat them every payday.. in that way ma happy na sad ko..
NOTHING BEATS THE HAPPINESS YOU FEEL WHEN YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE THE ONE WHO PUTS A SMILE ON THEIR FACES..
My bf asked me to wait a little bit longer (no specific timeframe, probably endless) before he can finally ask me to marry him because his family can't stand on their own yet without him generating the limited income from work.
He pays everything at home (bills, groceries, lendings, meds, housing expenses for possible relocation, etc.) and his salary in the call center industry may be big for others but is NEVER enough. Plus, his mom would complain that the money daw is KULANG, and when my bf has nothing to give na, dawo na daw. So, mangutang sa uban, and during the next pay day, aside sa consistent monthly contributions plus bayad pa sa utang, plus his mom would realize kuwang napud ang hatag so utang napud, then the cycle never ends.
My bf badly wants to put up a small business like a tindahan for his family so they can start generating the income from that instead of him always giving but his salary is not enough sa tanang bayranan that he can hardly save for his own allowance til the next pay day.
I love my bf so I will wait... They say the heart if truly in love will never get tired of waiting...
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