Bitaw.. Sulti-i sa mi unsa ni nga "holding back"?
If it's doing what you want, like joining meaningful organizations, or other wholesome hobbies,
then I think lisud2x gyud.
Pero kung bisyo gani, like inom (kay palahubog kaayo ka), or smoking (kay chain smoker kaayo ka),
I think reasonable ra man pud nga hinay-hinayon nimo ug undang; it's better for your health. LOL.
Pero kung ganahan gyud ka sa imung gibuhat, and don't want someone to control you,
then leave the relationship. Everything is a choice ra gyud bai.
If you choose to be with her, and her requests are reasonable enough,
then why don't you be a gentleman and give up your pride?