Dealing with arguments

[Jonzzz]

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Things to avoid when arguing or fighting with your relationship partner:

criticism,
contempt,
defensiveness and stonewalling (withdrawing from talking)
Good things to use in an argument:

Using humor to break tension in an argument.
Expressions of affection for your partner.
Acknowledge your partners point of view.
Two key things about a relationship:

It is important to build and maintain a FRIENDSHIP in your relationship and that you give your partner the benefit of the doubt when times are tough... namely TRUST!
You have a choice of either saying something that will nurture or rip up your relationship every time... think before you speak!

[I-lab-Iero]

They like to be fondled in the middle of an argument,
divert your emotions into it, it works all the time.