hubby caught cheating!badly need an advice..

[McCutiee]

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i can relate to this. Ako "hubby" gets assigned everywhere because of his work and we never really get to see each other and our son is growing up na wala ang papa. ang pinaka dugay namo nagkuyog is 6 months coz na assign lang siyag accoutn diri cebu. pero usually its 2 weeks, 2 months then off to another place again.

anyway, i was 7 months pregnant when her other girlfriend called me. from manila ang girl and he is there sad. ang girl mag cge tawag everynight saying na kuyog sila. they are having toot. naa pilde daw ko kay siya naa didto and stuff. immature stuff... and i asked my man ngano iya gibuhat ana siya companionship daw! whatever!
Pero what i did i let go, grabe ka lisud ato na panahona. until now (3 y.o. na ako anak) mag sakit gihapon ako dughan when maka remember ko sa nahitabo. i forced myself to be strong. focused sa ako anak. and wa nako gi-layo ako anak sa iya. eventually siya na dayon nag gukod but it wasn't easy for him. didn't made it easy. sa time that i needed him the most iya ko gi pasakitan. dako ayo na nasagpa sa ako.

karon kami pa and doing really well. though naa mga arte2x but he is trying. mas nailaila nako siya and vice versa. everytime mo lakaw siya naa gyud nay pakapin "i trust u". char lang. para makonsenya hehe pero btaw i trust him but he will never know about that.

dont stay because of your kid. let him be a father to your baby bisag mag buwag mo. Kay para sa ako your baby deserves a family but kanang family who loves each other ha. and pag cool off. let him court you again. tell him na panguyaban ka utro. flowers, chocolates, stuff toys. kung love ka gyud niya he will do everything to win you back. and mabalik ninyo ang kilig2x na stage hehehe sorry sa taas na post!

[orochimaru700]

buwagi sis, mailhan ra mana kung love gyud ka nya ky mag apologize na sa imo ug mkig balik daun na as soon as possible!

[bosin]

sis trial ra gyud na dapat calma lang ta give him another chance

[Pinkish]

sis saun ra na. pgtxt2x pd ug lain same sa iya gbuhat pra tilaw pd na xa. mao nay angay sa mga laking manyak. bawsan!

[Snowfly]

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside. It lies within it. The key in succeeding in marriage/ relationship is not finding the right person. Its learning to love the person you found.

Its too early to give up dear,,,,,,,,think of your baby and yourself. You can't really find lasting love, but instead You have to make it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage/relationship work.

If he is hungry and wants to eat adobo or sinigang or paksiw, lechon, utan or ginamos nga maws etc.etc. then prepare for a different dish all the time. ...... Am sure he will be looking forward to come home w/ you. Variation is very helpful.
Wives should be a Girl scout too- Laging handa! hehehe

I hope you got what I meant beeprecious101

Remember this always:

"God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go."
FW: Ruth Beltran

[Moongoddess28]

HOLY. CRAP.

that guy's a mess.
yufak anang laki na daghag playmates uyy. )

[abrielle]

I experienced the same thing.. Pero i chose to forgive him. In that way, mapakita nako niya nga love does not need to be reciprocated. Lahi man gud ako paradigm kung gugma na hisgutan! Sacrifice bya ang love. Its not stupid at all because that what love is all about.. U do not love a person because he loves u diba? u love him because u love him. so u don't need to give preconditions or requirements to give your love.. (point of view nako about love)

however naa man gyud pros and cons tanan.

One thing I struggled by giving him another chance is my TRUST. He still did not succeed in winning it back. Trust is earned right? it is never asked. I am still skeptical. pero as i'v mentioned, wala ko nireklamo kai mao na ako choice. I just bear with it and pray for it.

Ana ng life, there is no yes or no..It is always "it depends".. and life is bound to be complicated.. haaay..

[jessa_surban]

buwagi nana sis.. balikon ra gihapon na niya.. maka think na siya nga ma tolerate raman nimo

[ashmae_01]

sis sa akoa lng noh "once a cheater will always be a cheater" so mwala njud akong trust ana

bt hnuon give him d benefit of d doubt ky wat if ng SOT lng jud 2 cla....bt bsan pa sa tx lng 2 still he cheated on u....kaya mn gni nia mg ing ana sa tx how much more kng mgkita cla sa girl or worst is nhitabo jud na nila personally...

so if i wer u nlng sis ayaw ihatag tanan trust sa iyaha ky f ako sa imong situation ky im also a mother dn f evr buhaton na sa akoa sa akong husband i wont forgive him once is enuf ky nahitabo nman gud na so napay posibility mahitabo pa pag balik....

nd y worry f mgbuwag mo dli man luoy nyong bb as long wla cya gia abandon mas luoy nuon na mgdako cya nd mg cge mo ug away dn padulngan ra s buwag ra ghapon so jaz think abwt it sis f hatagan ghapon nmu cya chance bacn buhaton pana nia usab....jaz pray nlng na mg chnge njud cya nd dli nka nia psakitan....

[princess_nyle]

Not exactly the same as your story but you might learn from thisDoes cheating husband deserve a second chance? By Emily A. MarceloPhilippine Daily InquirerFiled Under: Family DEAR EMILY,I am 30, married for eight years with two children, seven and three years old. My husband has been a seaman since 2006. He was here on vacation last December and went back onboard last March.My big problem is, I caught my husband cheating on me. I read the text of his girlfriend saying they were meeting at Makati Medical for a prenatal checkup. He denied it and claimed the text was wrongly sent. But the girl’s text said hi to my two kids!Finally, he admitted he had gotten her pregnant. I was so shocked, I cried like I never cried. I was secure in our relationship because while he was onboard, we’d text each other every day and he’d call me once a week. He swore I was the only one for him and that he’d never cheat because he said he believed in karma.He said he is sorry and asked for one more chance. Now he is back onboard. I don’t know if I can really forgive him. There are many questions in my mind, which were never answered because our time together was short.How will I know if he is telling the truth now? Does he deserve a second chance? Do I have to forgive him just for the sake of our children? Is it true that once a cheat, always a cheat?SHENGYou and his girlfriend are basically on the same boat. Though you are the wife, this woman, like it or not, has become part of your husband’s life by the fact that she has his child – who will be entitled to some of the benefits as your kids.You are both in a relationship with a lonely man whose means of coping with isolation in the vast and desolate seas is to play games with the emotions of two women.Cruel to you, but a possible necessary psychological lifeline for him. It’s just too exciting for him to let either one of you go.You will never know the truth. Giving a second chance to a man beyond your reach will be a practice in futility. Would he feel any different if you left him now?Better for you to wait this out and see how things turn. Maintain the status quo because there’s nothing you can do to him – not while you’re able to see each other only once every few years. Your relationship will inevitably be defined if he stays here for good and stops traveling all together. As it stands, only your husband truly knows where his heart belongs.In the meantime, make him miss you by reinforcing the family values you’ve created and the history you’ve shared. Make him realize that he has a solid life with you, and the loss once you leave him. Since your only connection to him is the almighty telephone, be nice, be sweet, however difficult it is.Bite your tongue when you start turning into a fishwife. As the saying goes, “You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.”