Merged: All About Letting Go/ Moving On

[moz_k2]

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Apil nalang sa EB bro.
hehehe

Bitaw, time dulls the pain jud.
Just focus what's up ahead.

[sUnDoLp]

engage yourself sa mga activities like sports or imong mga hobbies. time pod ang kinahanglan para ma hinay2x kawala ug ka heal. goodluck to you...

[confidentlooks]

do something like unsa passion nimu...talk to someone u trust..try to forget it nlang kai mg self pity ra ka..

[camille_16]

ayaw pagcge og huna² nga moMove-on ka..
make yourself busy..
then later, makatell ra ka sa imong self, nga nakaMove-on diay ka.. ^_______^

[mo0nstar88]

ayaw taasa para maka mob.on ka


hehe.. make busy is one solution

[dreaming217]

naay rason ngano daghang tawo aning kalibutana....daghang rason ngano mga relasyon di mag ka dayon....daghan pud rason ngano naay mga relasyon nag ka dayon dyud....pero kong imong ibutang imong kaugalingon sa usa ka lugar nya mag tuyok tuyok ra ka dha....unsa nimo pag ka balo sa ubang tawo aning kalibutana....unsa pud nimo pagkabalo sa unsa imong gusto....basi sa pila mo ka tuig sa relasyon...nalimot ka sa unsa dyud ang imong gusto para sa imong kaugalingon...basi maani ang gi hatag sa panahon para ma kit an pud nimo sa imong kaugalingon ang butang na imong gusto dyud...make yourself better or more than that you were when you have the last relationship....it would make you feel good....and in time....sa cge nimong walking forward aning life....mo shine out ka sa usa ka tawo na maoy para dyud nimo na ikaw dyud ang iyang pares ug love....and in return....you shall love that person for the whole that you are...and for all that she is...have fun sa life....one time deal ra ni....

[cp103]

After 27 year of my existense in this world, i fell in love for the first time with this girl who happens to be a collegue in work. I never realized how much i love her til we broke up. for the first time, i experienced so much pain. betrayal etc.

Our relationship lasted for 2 years. I love her so much that it caused me so much pain and even though i am the one who was betrayed, still i begged for her to go back to me, eating up all my pride as a man. She refuse to be back because she is afraid that she might not equal the love that i give her and she needs to be alone daw to find wat she really wants. Even though I finally accepted the fact that were done na,confronted na and told her that I let her go na, still my heart is hoping. Please help. I need to get over this feeling. I still look for her, still think of her. Wat will i do to forget her? Im so madly inlove with her. Sometimes, words are easier said than done. Do you have any tips?

She refuse to be back because she is afraid that she might not equal the love that i give her and she needs to be alone daw to find wat she really wants. <--- bro, don't you think nah familiar na kaayo ni nga lines? same w/ it's not you, it's me.... these are statements that are being over used, sad to say, mostly by guys...

@ nouvoman and i lovepooh.... and to all people that are having a hard time going through the process og moving on.

It's true that moving on is a really hard phase in a person's life, just like how the saying goes... "it's easier said than done". There are a lot of things that people can do to move on like making yourself busy, going out w/ friends, etc. But I'm pretty sure beneath all this, there still lingers the feelings of attachment to the person? dba? just like wat CL said, although break na sila, they still keep on communicating, which in turn, just makes things worst, especially on your part, coz everything will just come back, and even if the saying is true that "love heals all wounds", if your not going to do something to improve the situation, then nothings ever gonna happen.

Saying or thinking "it's his/her loss, not mine" or "magmahay ra jud na xa y iya ko g.buhian" is just a mere justification for your convenience, which i must say is unjustifiable. Ironic, isn't it, but it's true. Think about it, even if mag.mahay xa, so what? wala naman kay labot ana dba? Because if you've really moved on, then it does not matter to you that they are regretting for their action, coz regretting can never make things return to the way they used to. What can be done is that they have learned and realized what they have done, and hopefully, make it a point that it will never happen again. By then, they can look for ways to make a fresh start, by then, they would be a better person than they used to be.

Some people think that going on dates is away to help them move on, but I don't think that it is right. You see, right after breaking up (does not necessarily mean dira2x dayun ha, it could mean weeks, months, depending on the person), most people would be on the "denial" stage, and that's the stage that's really dangerous, because it can create an endless cycle of pain. Let's put it this way, a girl just got dumped by the guy, now this girl has a lot of guys waiting for her, so she engages herself w/ one of those guys regardless if she has real feelings for the guy or not, which eventually leads her to dump him, so nahitabo, panakip butas lang ang guy. Now imagine the panakip butas guy, also doing what the girl did... Get my point? It's an endless cycle.

So instead of doing anything about your situation, why don't you try to calm yourself first, let's say sitting down, closing your eyes, and thinking about everything that has happened that could have led to your situation now,and being true to those facts. Done that right? good... By then, you would have realized that your relationship w/ that person would have never really worked out one way or another. There are just a lot of differences that either or both of you can never compromise, regardless of all the effort that either or both of you put into the relationship for it to work. By thinking about such thoughts, I believe that you are getting closer to realizing the word "ACCEPTANCE".

ACCEPTANCE as defined by the dictionary as "The mental*attitude that something is believable and should be accepted as true", and please take note of the word true. Are you being true to yourself that everything is okey that the relationship is over, or are you just making up lies to make yourself feel better about it? Being able to accept the fact that everything about your relationship is over is the very first step of moving on, because if your not going to accept that sad but hard fact, then I'm afraid your just going in circles? and when you are going in circles, your not going anywhere, by going in circles, your only giving yourself more pain and suffering. A clear example of this is still seeing the person while your still in the process of moving on. No pun intended. Another things, if you don't learn to accept, then you will never be able to realize that there are still a lot of beautiful things out there in your life.

After having accepted all those fact, your heart and mind should be a bit calmer and clearer now. By then, it should be okay to think of ways to make your life improve. If your a girl, then first think of making yourself beautiful again, I mean, by their own right, every girl is beautiful. Just like what Lorna Tolentino said after being asked what's she's going to do first (take note, she said this after she accepted the fact that "daboy" is gone.), " i'm thinking of beautifying myself first, and Girls, you already know how to make yourselves beautiful. Now if your a guy, well, that should be easy enough, you can already do what every single guy can do (guys, kamo na think kung unsa na sila... ) without worrying about anything. I guess this would be the 2nd step, I'll just call it, improving yourself.

On a side note, remember that each and everyone of us should live for the future, and not live in the past, because holding on to the past and living in the past is futile/useless/pointless. Although our past will become memories, and that we should treasure them(instead of saying that they are just mere memories. No pun intended) for they are the key to our future, living in the past, holding onto them are 2 different things.

"THE END"...................bow.

[emperadorse28]

oh well... that's life... people come, people go....

just listen to the song- HEART OF THE MATTER BY Don Henley of the EAGLES

for sure igo jud mo ani nga song.. hehe

[karlyn]

have fun with your life...

[lecreigh]

korek.. i-enjoy imo existence diri sa world....