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Do you Love and Dislike Your Spouse at the Same Time? It happens to a lot to people. You fall in love. The romantic phase ...

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    Do you Love and Dislike Your Spouse at the Same Time?

    It happens to a lot to people. You fall in love. The romantic phase blinds you to your partner's imperfections. Your spouse is a jerk. You think your mate will change. You hope that in time the difficult aspects of your spouse's jerky personality will go away. But it doesn't happen.
    You find yourself in love with a person you can't stand and don't like. Comments from others like "You should have known better..." or "Didn't you see it while dating..." won't help when living with a jerk. Should you throw in the towel when the handsome prince turns into a toad? Or is there hope for such a marriage?

    There is hope for this type of situation. However, it does take honest and caring communication.


    Types of Difficult Spouses


    The Know-it-All

    The Negative Thinker

    The Criticizer

    The Wishy-Washy Type

    The Silent Clam

    The Bully

    The Sickening Sweet Personality

    The Procrastinator

    The Self-centered and Selfish Person

    The Demanding Type

    The Joker

    The Embarrassing Spouse

    Personality compatibility is an important characteristic of happy couples. Irritating habits and activities of a jerk can drive you up the wall just like the drip, drip, drip of a leaky faucet.



    Coping Strategies if You've Married a Jerk


    Recognize you can't change your spouse. You can change your reactions and responses.

    Reinforce positive behavior. When you spouse does something right, say so!

    Maintain eye contact when stating your own opinions and feelings. Be prepared so you know what you want to say before you say it.

    Be straight forward and clear in your communications with your spouse.

    Don't place blame. It only creates defensiveness. Use "I" statements.

    Try and focus on the positive. Looking only at the negative behaviors in your spouse can be self-fulfilling.

    Be honest about yourself. If you make a mistake, admit it.

    Listen with both your heart and your mind.

    Make time to be alone together such as taking walks.


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    yes, i do love him but naa man cya traits dli nako ganahan.
    but dba if u love a person u have to accept him for what he is...

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    Quote Originally Posted by marix24_7
    yes, i do love him but naa man cya traits dli nako ganahan.
    but dba if u love a person u have to accept him for what he is...
    correct ka dyan.

    you love inspite of the negative traits your partner have. but i do believe pud nga kung love ka kaau sa imong partner, he/she will do his/her best to change ways.

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