~Why Wait for ***? Stay Pure for True Love!~

**prettymeeh0505** · 02-03-2005, 02:49 PM

WHY SINGLES SHOULD STAY PURE
By Christy Shipe

Here are the three most important reasons to stay pure:

1. God says so! The very best reason of all to keep your mind and actions
pure is just because God wants us to do it. This is love for God: to obey
his commands. (1 John 5:3) If you truly love God, you will do what He says.
After all, He suffered and died for you!

2. You're not missing anything by waiting. The consequences of being impure
are far greater than any of the benefits! Consider what you gain by making
out or having *** with your boyfriend: a temporary good time. It doesn't
last very long. A few hours at the most. Yet the consequences can last a
lifetime. You could get diseases, you could get pregnant, you could lose
your good name and self-respect. Even if you don't go all the way, you can
still struggle with feelings of guilt and low self-esteem. You can damage
your relationship with your boyfriend, your parents, and God.

3. True love remains pure. Eventually, you will have problems in your
relationship with your boyfriend if your thoughts or actions are impure. If
your relationship is based on lust instead of love, it's bound to fail. Lust
can damage even the truest love and corrupt even the closest soul mates. If
you really want a wonderful relationship with your boyfriend, you will have
a pure relationship with him.

Lust, at its very heart, is self-centered. Yet love is other-centered. Love
is patient, love is kind. It is not self-seeking. Love does not delight in
evil but rejoices with the truth. (excerpts from 1 Corinthians 13) How can
you really love someone if you're focused on meeting your own desires?

Now that all sounds pretty good, but is it really true? Let me give you
some examples of why lust corrupts true love. First of all, if you are
lusting after your boyfriend, you are really wanting to use him for your
own benefit. Eventually, he's going to get sick of that. If you continue the
pattern of lusting after him to fulfill your needs and wishes, he's going to
resent you instead of love you. Nobody likes being used. Nobody likes being
controlled and manipulated. And you can guarantee your boyfriend will hate
it, too.

Second of all, if you are trying to love your boyfriend by meeting his
demands for physical contact, you are really just feeding his lust. I will
be so bold as to guess that 100% of guys struggle with lust, some more than
others. When you hug your boyfriend, you may be thinking, What a sweetie!
But he's thinking, What a hot body! The tiniest of things can send a guy's
whole body flaming with lust, and the girl has no idea. That's why even if
you don't struggle with lust, you should be extremely careful.

You may think, But my boyfriend wants to kiss me because he loves me! That
may be true. People who are in love want to express that love in physical
ways. But you'll be able to tell if your boyfriend really loves you if he
wants to keep your relationship pure more than he wants to kiss you. Real
love wants the best for the other person. And God's standard of purity and
holiness is the best for both your lives.

Don't allow your boyfriend to act on his lust with you. If you do, you are
just storing up trouble for yourself in the future. A lustful boyfriend or
husband will likely do one or both of two things: 1) Be unfaithful to you
by lusting after other girls and 2) Use and control you to fulfill his
lust. Anyone who lusts tries to use and control others. And you don't want
that kind of relationship.

My parting thought is this: If you lose your boyfriend because you have
high standards, then he was worth losing. Stay away from lustful guys who
want to use and control you. Look for a guy who loves God first and who
loves you so much that he wants to do the right thing.

**14343** · 02-03-2005, 03:11 PM

*look for a guy who loves God first*......pari?......it is forbidden to have intimate relationship with a priest
*who love loves you so much that he wants to do the right thing*........obssesive person?........kakurat aning oyaba killer ni ug hingali magbuwag mu patay ka..........

**prettymeeh0505** · 02-03-2005, 03:16 PM

hi 14343 : u seems to me a very mababaw person.

**14343** · 02-03-2005, 03:19 PM

....i agree to that....coz if i get hi....you might not reach me anymore..........bwajhahaha

**alas** · 02-03-2005, 04:29 PM

my dear, is it that bad to make love with someone you love? i think i doesnt hurt ([size=9px]only in the first time i believe[/size]) to give a little juice and spice to your relationship?

**Zealot** · 02-03-2005, 04:38 PM

Para naa sila originality......

**alas** · 02-03-2005, 05:06 PM

there has to be impurity so that purity can prove its good above it. it is keeping the balance.

**shiftleft** · 02-03-2005, 05:17 PM

hi prettyme....

wherd u get this piece? its nice...but there are times you have to go out of your shell, if this includes losing your pureness then do it... we could connect lust to *** or whatever u call it... Whats *** w/o lust anyway?

Everything you do whether its good or bad, have its own consequences, so its all up to you on how to deal with it.

how would you know na ang guy imo nakit-an only wants to do the right thing for you? Naa dghan guys/gals na very conservative kunohay or shall i say allergic to people "doing the wrong thing"...pro diay to nasa luob ang kulo...

pro theres nothing wrong in what you believe...everyone is unique...

*stay cool

*

**prettymeeh0505** · 02-03-2005, 05:21 PM

hello shiftleft :

i got it from my archives..jus want to share wid pipol in here. (-; thanks for appreciating....God Bless!

**alas** · 02-03-2005, 05:23 PM

OT:
@ prettymee: you ever had relatioships before?