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Quote:
Originally Posted by diem
Love can wait but Life won't.
Maybe you're dwelling too much on your guy's lack of time for you when you should be doing about something with your time for yourself.
I know that there is nothing greater than to love and be loved in return, oh how sweet it is to spend every waking, breathing moment with that sort of emotion... but may I suggest that you be proactive and make the most of your time when you two are not together.
Your boyfriend is a workacholic as you posted. Have you ever given thought to what goals is he working towards to? Could it be for a secure, leisurely future with you? Why don't you assist him in achieving the future the sooner the better? You could apply your time and effort as well as he does so that you won't have time and energy to waste missing him or wondering if you really love him.
A relationship is a two-person act. It takes two to make it work and keep it working. One gives, the other takes and vice versa. The reason I believe that your feelings for him are rotting to nothing is because you yourself are stuck in a rut. So please do stand up and do something positive and proactive with your time because it is only those who LIVE who can LOVE and be happy.
Wishing you all the best in Life and in Love.
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the truth is, i'm also busy with work, but i always find time to text message him and update him about the things i plan to do on that day. i even sneak out of the office and try to call for a few seconds only for him to know that i miss him so much and that i love him. on his part, he doesn't do that. he only does that first thing in the morning before he goes to work, and last thing in the evening after he gets home from work and before he goes to sleep. though, at night, we always spend hours on the phone talking, it isn't still enough for me, because whenever we're on the phone, he always talks about how tired he is from work, how he spent his entire day with work, and how busy he is with his work. it's all about work. i don't want to complain about this, but it's getting into my nerves. for the past few days, i've been trying to be preoccupied with things and stuff. i even do things i didn't usually do before, only to keep my mind occupied and working.
i know he needs my understanding, and that's what i've been doing for the past few days, but he should know that i also need his understanding and consideration. i've told him several times about my thoughts, but he always lets the issue pass and changes the topic. he's very good at that. i don't want to take him negatively because i love him so much, and i know he loves me as well, but i shouldn't be the only one working this out. shouldn't be working this out together? i shouldn't be alone with this, right? he told me we could talk things when the time comes. it's very indefinite to me. i want to talk this out with him so that i could get out from frustrations.
i was wondering if i should surprise him at work. would it be a better thing to do? would it make him realize that it's really important for me that we should talk and work this out? would it warn him that this thing is quite serious already? would it make him think that his life is not just with his work, but also with me? i love him, and i need him, but i don't want an absentee boyfriend. i know he loves me, but his presence and his actions, as well as his efforts, would prove it to me.
07-02-2008, 04:11 AM
