how will u accept it?

[sigs4diamonds]

what will you do if you found out that your partner that you have been with for 14 yrs and whom you have accepted for what he is and accepted the limit of his capabilty of giving you good life,is a drug user?and at all times he lied at you about it.. and u have kids..

[T0xic]

pait kaayo nang kahimtanga sis....pagkalisod i-solve na nga problem. ang uban mu ingun biyaan ang bana, sayun ra kaayo isulti kay wa man sila sa lugar. Kutaw sad akong utok ana sis.

[landz0216]

tsk tsk tsk.. convince him to go to rehab sis and tell him that its for the sake of the kids and you .. if he wants a good life and good future for his family then he will do the right thing..

[necrotic freak]

^^kana kung ang iyang bana naay pagtanaw sa future sa iyang mga anak? ug wala.. maayong ihawon!

[Shofu]

Rehab...gasto jud hinoon na, u need to have a heart to heart talk with him, mga future sa anak....
I know a collegue before nga saludo judkos iya bana...One way of helping his wife quit shabu was iya gihinay-hinay kay dle cya ka afford ug rehab. Meaning, 1st wks straight shabu hangtud anam-anam ug lessen..kay matud pas mga hooked adiicts helantan ug mangurog sila ug dile ka suyop. Mao na gibuhat sa bana although siya mismu gasakit dughan...
Although, dle kaau ni effective sa uban & not even advisable ..im jz sharing my thoughts....
Karun,tarung na kaau asawa, f hesgotan namu iya kaagi magpang lingo2x jud cya...pasalamat sad siya iya bana grabe antos..for better for worst jud ba..

[sigs4diamonds]

same things that i told him....now i have one more question.. how can i give him my trust again? honestly, right now, every word he say is like something that i have to think about if its true or not and sometimes i get to a point staring at him kung nagtama ba sya or wala bec i feel like na blind gyud ko niya for almost the entire marriage life...
sometimes i hate him for ruining our life, opportunities were there already, but nawala tanan bec of his attitude towards me and sometimes even physically hurt me..
you were right, saun kaau sulti biya, but when the kids starts talking to you about it and asking why na ing ana ila dad, and why i let things happen to daddy, i feel like ako pa ila i blame for everything...

[unsay_ngalan_nimo]

pila edad sa inyo bata...

sis lisod man kung ang bana isahan ka ug kamot... kay mahotabo gyud na pa ulit-ulit.. basin mabattered wife ka ana..

naa mu mga bata.. if his addiction is affecting the children and their development maypa think things over and your options...

bisan unsa na option kay naa pros and cons... kung mu-stay ka or kung dili... pero think what is good for your children...

[sigs4diamonds]

i am a battered wife, it actually stopped na before i left the philippines and thats the reason why i needed to go back to the philippines after 5 mos working in sg as a brand manager, i gave up everything bec i cannot let my kids be with him na ing ana cya, i love my kids and i can lose everything but not my kids....
but right now since i have kids na naa na buot, they are the ones who tells me to forgive their father and give chance thats why it is so hard to say no...ok dawat ko balik..but mao lagi na my trust is wala na gyud and if mag away mi paranoid na ko na basin nag tama or whatever!
i really know what to do, but i cannot hurt my kids...
i just hope this would be a lesson to each one of you... hay life..

[maitoots]

if the kids have buot na tell them the truth.. don't you think they too deserve to know the truth?? kids are a lot smarter than we think they are. ask your kids what do they think and what do they like to do now that they know the truth. kay tngali sa imong pag tabun2x karn mas ikaw pa jud hnuon ang ma blame sa kids later on why do you didn't tell then the truth.. the same feeling nmo karn nga giiliad ka all your married life.. maybe when you hear what your kids have to say, things will be very different na. kay aside from this will be a lesson for all of us here, most imprtantly this is a lesson for you too..

[unsay_ngalan_nimo]

Quote: Originally Posted by maitoots if the kids have buot na tell them the truth.. don't you think they too deserve to know the truth?? kids are a lot smarter than we think they are. ask your kids what do they think and what do they like to do now that they know the truth. kay tngali sa imong pag tabun2x karn mas ikaw pa jud hnuon ang ma blame sa kids later on why do you didn't tell then the truth.. the same feeling nmo karn nga giiliad ka all your married life.. maybe when you hear what your kids have to say, things will be very different na. kay aside from this will be a lesson for all of us here, most imprtantly this is a lesson for you too..

i greee with you sis... it right ra sad tingali na your kids should know what is between you and your partner...

kay basin in the long run ikaw ang luoy...

[a_girl]

mao sd tigale sis naa xa bisyo.. daun blind kaau ka xa dre cge suyup..in anah sd ako bf sauna sis...as in graveh kaau ka hook sa ya drugs somtimes mo ask ko nya asa ya palabihon ya bisyo or pamlya.egu rman xa mu sulte pamlya but laau rakau ya huna2x..di jud lalim na mu dagko ag mga bata daun kahibaw na xla tanan na bisyonado. la papa...naa man gud posiblty na ma buhat na nla somday its bec of curiosity..naa ramn na nimo kug gi unsa nimo xla pag gabay tanan peru wa jud ta kahibaw sa panahon kay karun open nakau ag mga bata sa mga binu-ag....peru sis ayaw sd pag antos oe di na sakto u hav d ryt to b happy..mas mau gne kay naa naka mga anak to comfort u in times of mu buwag njud ka nya..xa rmn gud ag mu dced tanan kug mo stop na xa sa iya bisyo..dha nmn gud na maka feel na naa ka sa iya syd in tmes of he ned somtg but kug wla gane,naa na sa ya mga barkada..ryt?if u lik to be a martyr one go on...but gav urself a litle respect and hapy..especialy sa mga bata.. try to talk wd hm..peru mao sd lage siya sad ba ag tinood nimo ka atubag..buhe na patay man ako term anah nla kay buhe xla but patay ag utok lagpas kaau xnsya na sis..mao jud na ako na bantayan ako bf sauna..so akog gi buhat jud nkg buwag jud ko nya ato..now naka kita naku ug guy na mo undrstand naku and most of ol wla jud bisyo ag perme huna2 work rjud for d future sa amog bby wa jud ko gamahay na nikig buwag ko atog bisyunado.think sis...for d sake lg sa mga bata..and always pray..^^

[Monmyhand]

just accept it that no more heart to heart talk is possible with drug addicts. their brains have been re-wired by the drugs. they do not always mean what they say. they do not always listen to what is being said.

if you are married, annulment is one realistic option. let us face it, life is about choices. he made his. he destroyed his life. if you stay with him, yours and that of the kids could be destroyed too. but then, that is a choice too. yours to make.

drugs is a one way mistake people make. there is no turning back.

how i wish life had a rewind button so we can push play again and make things right next time...gosh, that s just the poet in me talking out loud.

[unique]

thats a difficult situation jud sis, but i can say that there is always light somewhere, try to join religious communities together as a family, i know personally of some people who are just like in your case and they have made it and have become one happy family, of course life is not easy but they dont have to go back to that situation again.

[raizene]

hala sis pwede mana xa nimu ipa rehab din mg work ka sa layo, have ur kids adto sa imohang parents...pwd mana xa nimu pa buahan ug court order na dili xa makaduol sa inyong mga anak unless dili xa mag bag-o..but murag nindot sad ug gikabuangan imohang bana dah,, dili babaye hehehe butang man....

[Kishin888]

cant you let him stop