A Cheating Dad

[m!nyanG]

@darkruid:
student pako..heheh
btw,ok rman mi wid out my father,,ky aq nmn lang student sa amo.a....
to think lang mas dako og share ako mother sa amo business...ky dghan mn nka name niya...hehehe
aq father d ganahan mkig buwag,,ky akong mama nkadala swerte sa iya...

[violeta99]

Quote: Originally Posted by aridoasis Hope to get some advice from fellow istoryans... I caught my dad cheating - that's the short version. Many times, my dad leaves his cellphone at home, and asks me to take his calls for him. One day, I received a call from an unknown lady looking for "hun". She talked to me, assuming I was my dad because I kinda sound like him over the phone. Well she was all mushy and I didn't know how to react, so I told her she got the wrong number and put down the phone. She kept on calling and calling but I never picked up, until she quit it. The nosy child that I am, I snooped around my dad's cellphone and hit the mother load - several sms exchanges containing terms of endearment, sexual invites, an much much more - from different women dating back to years before. Students, hookers - you name it. He's giving cellphones, allowances, and other stuff too, stuff he wouldn't even think twice of giving to his children. I didn't know how to handle it, so I just kept it to myself. --- That was 4 years ago. Since then, I continued snooping around and he's still at it, with different women for periods of time. Well, I couldn't stand it anymore and told him that I knew what he was doing and told him that it disgusted me. He went all self-righteous telling me I had no right to do anything, and wouldn't admit to his wrongdoings - a lot of harsh words were exchanged. At this point in time, I learned that my mom also found out about his extracurricular activities, and he's blaming her that it's her fault that I found out. I also learned that that what my mom knew about was only of the present girl he was having an affair with - his secretary. So, I told him that I knew more than what he had expected, more than what mom knew, but haven't told her, and we stopped speaking to each other. And he calls me stupid and mistaken to defend my mom - to think, from groceries to tuition fee's, my mom handles them all - even buying his underwear. My mom, being a genuine mother, opted for reconciliation for the sake of my two siblings, and at the moment, we all still live under the same roof, only my mom and me knowing my dad's doings. --- That was 2 years ago. Right now, the family looks fine, except for that fact that my dad and I haven't spoken a single word to each other. I try to avoid him as much I can coz I can't stand being around him. He's with the family more often, and spends a lot more time with mom - or so I thought. Two weeks ago, I'd found his mobile left behind when he went of to work. Someone was calling - his colleague, and I informed him that the phone was left behind. Taking the opportunity, I did some snooping, and again found a dozen or so messages exchanged within the last few days containing terms of endearment, sexual invites, an much much more, now from a sender whose name is only 3 letters. I checked the number and for sure, it wasn't my mom's. He's up to his dirty doings again. I'm 22 and I'm powerless to do anything. I don't wanna see my mom hurt again, but I guess it's inevitable that she will find out what's going on sooner or later. If she's break up with my dad, the salary I'm earning wouldn't be enough to support my mom and my siblings. I'm the only one who knew about this, and now, you, my fellow istoryans, know too. The are some details I left out - it was already painful enough having to refer to him as 'my dad' while I wrote this post.

bai, kahibaw ka ngano di na muhunong imo papa...feel nako sakit man gyud na bai...chixomaniac gyud na bai rihas ra na sa ako papa...gali lang ako papa hilas...burag gwapo...kaluod...yucks au ako papa...may man gani imo papa kay nibawi man ako wa gyud bai...naa pa lang lagi ko kaila nga mamamarang aie...hagbay na nakong gipabarang...kanang di na gyud makapanchix ba...fighting lang bai!!!

[Bongoton]

men are born polygamous, just like majority of the male species in this planet. that is nature. but since we have laws and morals, that supresses the nature of men, but not totally. that explains nganong naay kabit²

[Soul Doctor]

Quote: Originally Posted by violeta99 bai, kahibaw ka ngano di na muhunong imo papa...feel nako sakit man gyud na bai...chixomaniac gyud na bai rihas ra na sa ako papa...gali lang ako papa hilas...burag gwapo...kaluod...yucks au ako papa...may man gani imo papa kay nibawi man ako wa gyud bai...naa pa lang lagi ko kaila nga mamamarang aie...hagbay na nakong gipabarang...kanang di na gyud makapanchix ba...fighting lang bai!!!

Don't judge your dads.
They all have their reasons why they are that way.

For a seaman, that is what we call the social cost.
You may gain financially by working abroad
but the social cost is ---you will lose your love for the family.

Kung seaman ka,
being away from anyone
makes you feel that you have less control of your feelings.
You will feel not loved by your family--nga kwarta ra ilang gi-apas nimo.
You will feel na dili ka nila love kay dili motext or mosuwat man lang nimo.
Mafeel sad nimo nga dili appreciative ang imong mga anak.
Magsigeg pangayo bisan unsa murag sayon ang pagpangitag kwarta didto.
Dili sad makita ang ilang sakripisyo.
Mao nga mudangop na lang sila sa alcohol or women to give them comfort.
Once man gud maka inom na manginit ang lawas ug mangita na dayon og chicks.
Mao nga kung dili lig-on og values ug prinsipyo ang usa ka tawo,
maglisod siya pagsurvive sa trabaho sa gawas without losing his family.

[aridoasis]

Quote: Originally Posted by Soul Doctor Don't judge your dads. They all have their reasons why they are that way. For a seaman, that is what we call the social cost. You may gain financially by working abroad but the social cost is ---you will lose your love for the family. Kung seaman ka, being away from anyone makes you feel that you have less control of your feelings. You will feel not loved by your family--nga kwarta ra ilang gi-apas nimo. You will feel na dili ka nila love kay dili motext or mosuwat man lang nimo. Mafeel sad nimo nga dili appreciative ang imong mga anak. Magsigeg pangayo bisan unsa murag sayon ang pagpangitag kwarta didto. Dili sad makita ang ilang sakripisyo. Mao nga mudangop na lang sila sa alcohol or women to give them comfort. Once man gud maka inom na manginit ang lawas ug mangita na dayon og chicks. Mao nga kung dili lig-on og values ug prinsipyo ang usa ka tawo, maglisod siya pagsurvive sa trabaho sa gawas without losing his family.

Well, that cannot be considered as an excuse for my dad. One thing is that he isn't a seaman. My family has been living under the same roof ever since. And another thing is that he's allergic to beer - less than one glass is enough for the allergic reactions to manifest.

On another note, being weak and being away from home is not an excuse, especially if the deed becomes more than just a one night stand. Sa mga storya diri sa, sobra pa sa one night stand ang gipangbuhat - gibuntis pa, gipamily pa jud. Is there such a thing as an excuse for adultery?

[Bongoton]

I will never dare judge anyone, because you would never know what really is in his heart. Usa ra nakahibaw ana, ug siya ray naay karapatan mo judge.. ang Ginoo. Unless you are God, you do not judge anyone according to what you know because there are a LOT of things you DO NOT know..
I think mao nay point ni soul doctor..
But then again, this is not an excuse for the sin committed.

[vixenshoppe]

sakita aning sitwasyona..lisura i advice ani kay papa's girl manko gud,(but ako dad super sa buotan) at thesame time wife sad ko..well, if ako ang mommy nimo maningamot kog huthut ug kwarta sa imo dad and mangita kog way nga masakitan cyag ayo,kamong mga anak dapat naa jud mo sa mommy ninyo kay aside from sayup inyo dad gkan sad jud mo sa inyo mommy.if kuwang inyo finance then mangita ug paagi para mudako ang kwarta,larga states,etc..dghan man paagi ug kibaw lng mag antus and mangita kwarta kaysa magpuyo mo usa ka balay nga maot ug hangin.dib?i can't that situation if ako ikaw..just always pray and read the bible.

[grlnxtdor16]

my gosh.. i know how it feels jud kai akong dad until now i cant forgive him for cheating on my mom. i just dont talk to him either. he gets all righteous with me for all my mistakes. but in the first place i wasnt the one who cheated...so i think cheaters have no right at all to give lectures about love because in reality u dont knoow the meaning of it.

[martiristic]

To those who were unlucky to be having such fathers, cheer up! It's not the end of the world. Do not let the wrongdoings of you Dads affect you to the point that you become pessimistic of your life ahead. Good thing that you have moms who are there for you always and are willing to give up everything for you...Life should not be focused on people who are sick in the mind.Do not mind them as they did not mind about what you might feel upon knowing what they are doing. For them to change their ways is out of your control as in baga baga na gyud ni sila ug nawong...Forgive if you can but I know it would be very hard to forget.

[thamora]

for me...as a married woman...

expected na nako mag eng-ana ang mga bana

..

[pigrah]

@ TS

I feel sorry for whats happening around u.
life is a bitch sometimes eh? I guess what u need to do now is stand up for the whole family and be strong for them.

I really dont believe in being a martyr, and I cant say I know exactly how u feel coz i dont.
I lost my parents when I was really really young but then again thinking about ur situation and mine, the common ground is, we all experience tough times in our lives, this maybe urs...

So the only thing left for u to do is to prepare urself and be strong since ur already aware bout everything that is wrong in the picture.

Just think of this situation as the beggining...so u can get ready for the worse.

[tewest]

been there...its pretty tough though...
I am a girl...and I do have trust issues with men, good thing my boyfriend understands that, but it's really hard to adjust!!!!

I dont have anything bad to say to my dad, he has been a great dad...it's just that's his weakness...and stuff!!!!

all you think now is be strong for you family and for ur mom...and if you are a girl...try to be open minded coz it's kindda hard if you always think about what your dad is doing...it will show in ur actions and decisions...

and again...be happy!!!! just be strong for ur mom...

kudos!!! take care...

[Mugi17]

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ipakita ni nga vid sa inyo dad or let him hear this song.....

[radnop]

Quote: Originally Posted by aridoasis Hope to get some advice from fellow istoryans... I caught my dad cheating - that's the short version. Many times, my dad leaves his cellphone at home, and asks me to take his calls for him. One day, I received a call from an unknown lady looking for "hun". She talked to me, assuming I was my dad because I kinda sound like him over the phone. Well she was all mushy and I didn't know how to react, so I told her she got the wrong number and put down the phone. She kept on calling and calling but I never picked up, until she quit it. The nosy child that I am, I snooped around my dad's cellphone and hit the mother load - several sms exchanges containing terms of endearment, sexual invites, an much much more - from different women dating back to years before. Students, hookers - you name it. He's giving cellphones, allowances, and other stuff too, stuff he wouldn't even think twice of giving to his children. I didn't know how to handle it, so I just kept it to myself. --- That was 4 years ago. Since then, I continued snooping around and he's still at it, with different women for periods of time. Well, I couldn't stand it anymore and told him that I knew what he was doing and told him that it disgusted me. He went all self-righteous telling me I had no right to do anything, and wouldn't admit to his wrongdoings - a lot of harsh words were exchanged. At this point in time, I learned that my mom also found out about his extracurricular activities, and he's blaming her that it's her fault that I found out. I also learned that that what my mom knew about was only of the present girl he was having an affair with - his secretary. So, I told him that I knew more than what he had expected, more than what mom knew, but haven't told her, and we stopped speaking to each other. And he calls me stupid and mistaken to defend my mom - to think, from groceries to tuition fee's, my mom handles them all - even buying his underwear. My mom, being a genuine mother, opted for reconciliation for the sake of my two siblings, and at the moment, we all still live under the same roof, only my mom and me knowing my dad's doings. --- That was 2 years ago. Right now, the family looks fine, except for that fact that my dad and I haven't spoken a single word to each other. I try to avoid him as much I can coz I can't stand being around him. He's with the family more often, and spends a lot more time with mom - or so I thought. Two weeks ago, I'd found his mobile left behind when he went of to work. Someone was calling - his colleague, and I informed him that the phone was left behind. Taking the opportunity, I did some snooping, and again found a dozen or so messages exchanged within the last few days containing terms of endearment, sexual invites, an much much more, now from a sender whose name is only 3 letters. I checked the number and for sure, it wasn't my mom's. He's up to his dirty doings again. I'm 22 and I'm powerless to do anything. I don't wanna see my mom hurt again, but I guess it's inevitable that she will find out what's going on sooner or later. If she's break up with my dad, the salary I'm earning wouldn't be enough to support my mom and my siblings. I'm the only one who knew about this, and now, you, my fellow istoryans, know too. The are some details I left out - it was already painful enough having to refer to him as 'my dad' while I wrote this post.

whoaaaaaa grabe pud oi.. sorry to hear that.. GOD will do everything for you.. that's all i can say

[isidromax]

lisod jud brod imo situation. ako papa chicks adarit pud kaayo, pati amo maid, gi patos. hmmmmm. nag antos jud ako mama, makigbulag na unta siya sa dihang buntis pa siya sa ako magulang kaduha. pero nag uli ra sila kay nadala og sabot sabot sa ilang mga ginikan, nga tagaan og chance ako papa. mao to, nisugot ako mama, naanak tawon ko og ang akong manghod (upat man mi tanan), salamat kay naka apas pako, hehehehe. pero kusog man gihapon man chicks ako papa, gibulagan jud siya ni mama uban mi upat. 6 yrs. old pa ko ato panahona wala jud mi kwarta ato nga panahona kay si papa man ang medyo naay kwarta. nag antos tawon ako mama og buhi namo, pero kaloy an sa Ginoo, ni survive mi and professional nami tanan karon. hehehehehe

sa pag ka karon, ako na napasaylo ako papa, bisan unsaon nimo og bali ang kalibotan, papa lang gihapon nako siya. thankful na lang sad ko nga usa siya sa hinungdannga natawo ko ani nga kalibotan, life is good brod.

nag hope ko nga makita pa nako siya, since 6 yrs. old, la na jud mi kita. kumusta na kaha siya karon. I hope, maayo iya kahimtang karon.