I need to understand

[Maikeru]

Quote: Originally Posted by Soul Doctor This is common thing for women on irresponsible boys. They always hope that that boy will change and her love will bring out the best of him. The reality is--in a relationship--- boys always grew worse. If he smokes, he will become a chain smoker. If he gambles, he becomes addicted to it to a point that he will steal just to have money for gambling. If he drinks, he will become an alcoholic as he grows old. If he womanize, he will do it more and more. If he plays online games, he will be addicted to it more to a point that nothing in his life is more important than playing online games with friends. He is a hopeless case. You will wish you never knew him at all.

Mostly likely that guy is a jerk. But will disagree with the bolded green text. There is always a chance to change. After I saw 1 friend who changed from worst to better, I couldn't say anymore that "boys always grew worse".

[KASAAC]

no sis, I don't think your man deserve more chances, you gave your best but if he doesn't see and appreciate it, back off...its time for you to take good care of yourself and the child...
he is very irresponsible sis let him be alone just like what other istoryans here are advising you...let time passes by until he realizes your worth for now, I guess you need to move out, don't tell him of your plans, its best if secretly you move out and tell your common friends not to let him know or even his family

[maitoots]

from my point of view, i think you have given him enough chances na to last his lifetime.. inutil ni tawhana sis uy. give yourself the worth you deserve. leave him alone and yes i think it's better for the kid not to see hs dad for now, kay ing dako sa baby mo ask ra na n f that time comes na be honest pd to your kid. sometimes, life is better off without the man usahay hasol kaau ni cla oi, labad sa ulo ba

[prettybabyandi]

ka-sad pud ani nga situation sis oi pero u know what, i think it would be better not only for u but for ur son also to be without ur boyfriend nlng kung ing ana lng diay sya.. gkan na mismo nimu na he's an immature and irresponsible person ever since na bag-o pamu.. and til now wa ghapun sya mu-change and instead, nisamot pa hinuon cya.. wa na nah cyay hope na mu-change sis..though some do, sad to say most irresponsible persons grow old still irresponsible.. u gave him enough time already to prove himself worthy of u and ur baby but wala syay gbuhat.. so he's not worthy of ur love at all.. i know nglibog ka coz u dont want to be a single parent but hey, there's a positive side of being single.. at least, anak nlng nimu imung badlungon kaysa pun-an pka sa amahan na badlungonon pud kaaayo..doble na ang sakit sa imung ulo dba? pasagdihi nlng na cya sis..let him live on his own para mkalearn cya what life is being alone....everything will be ok.....God bless

[GOSPELofROCH]

i think he is trying to escape his responsibilities as a father and husband but couldn't say it to you.

what a useless person, bya-e!

[maitoots]

Quote: Originally Posted by GOSPELofROCH i think he is trying to escape his responsibilities as a father and husband but couldn't say it to you. what a useless person, bya-e!

yes i agree, bya i and never come back

[hunt99]

Quote: Originally Posted by yvonne6 guys, i need your opinion on this particular situation. i have a bf for almost 5 years now. we have a 3 year old baby boy. i was previously married and have kids from that failed marriage. my bf knew about this and so his family. he is yonger than i am. when we started, my finances was okay. we were okay. problems started when i got pregnant by accident. he tried to back off from his obligation. i didnt insist at that point. i was financially responsible for the kid alone. he ignored me and the baby inside my womb. he was embarrassed to be with me. when i just gave birth, i learned he cheated on me with a bitch who was sleeping with a lot of guys. i forgave him because our baby was newly born and i wanted him to grow up with a dad. he is very immature and irresponsible. i am always there for him through thick and thin, loving him giving him all the best i can helping him to be his best. he dropped from school because of his addiction for online games. his parents lost their trust in him and i was the only one left believing he can do better. i supported him until we ended up working in the same company. everything went well and we were happy. one day, he suddenly stopped working without prior notice, didnt even resign from work. i didnt know why. then he started hanging out with people i dont know and no longer going home. most of the time, he will come home when its day time already. i cant confront him because he would yell and throw insults on me. i know this is not a manifestation of someone who still respects me. love is no longer a question, i think he has lost it. he would like us to share the kid but he cant treat me nicely. i dont want to rob the kid the chance to grow up knowing his dad but i am scared what values this man would teach my son. is it fair not to let that guy see our baby again? its been five long years, i dont think i have not given him enough chances to change. do you think he is seeing another woman? guys, tanaw ninyo, asshole ra kaau siya? id like to understand what happened along the way. is it really hard to be nice to someone who has given you so much love, infact is the mother of your child?? please give your opinion. thanks

am in your problem sis actually age doesn't mater already but im thinking his not yet ready in having a family but there is also another possiblity na basin naa siyay mga secreto na wala paka kabalo ako pa nimo sis storya-i siya be seryos but be calm and observe his moves style and attitude if wala siya ka usaban then its your desisyon if mag buwag nal ang mo you know sis am bisan laki ko ha kasagaran baya mag binoang sa babae laki baya gyud pero di tanan laki ing-ana ky ako gani past reverse ako moy nasakitan kaayo but mo forgive man gyud ko and past is past most important is the present even single na lang ta forever basta malipay ta labi pa ika duha nani nakong kinabuhi ky dapat dead naman ko onya kasagaran sad sa babae pili-an gyud ang appearance man gud tan-awon og una mas maayo gyud inner beauty tan-awon og una pero sad noon di man tanan babae ing-ana cause actually getting into a seryos relationship both must love, care , comfort, help, trust, respect, honest and both has good attitudes, moves and style og dili na pang lingaw seryos na gyud na tinarong magkasinabot mong duha og malipayon mo onya ayaw gyud mog buhat anang *** onya nalang og minyo na mo

[yvonne6]

thanks sa mga ni comment. medyo naa nay changes gamay. recently, ni work na siya ug balik. we talked heart to heart gyud kanang kalma nga estorya, wala man daw siya lain na chix (thanks goodness), sige lang daw siya basket, online games. aburido daw siya kay wala siya work. nagger daw ko mao. ana ko, alangan mo nag kung walay sayup. amo bb tua sa ilaha para ma remind siya permi nga amahan na siya. agwanta lang gyud tawn ko, support ug understand lang niya nga unta mabag o siya. hahayz. kapoy baya sad ning mag mahal ta noh. hehe

[Soul Doctor]

Quote: Originally Posted by Maikeru Mostly likely that guy is a jerk. But will disagree with the bolded green text. There is always a chance to change. After I saw 1 friend who changed from worst to better, I couldn't say anymore that "boys always grew worse".

Some may change , but the girl already suffered a lot before he'll change.
and any problem may trigger to make him to go back to his old ways.

[Soul Doctor]

Quote: Originally Posted by yvonne6 thanks sa mga ni comment. medyo naa nay changes gamay. recently, ni work na siya ug balik. we talked heart to heart gyud kanang kalma nga estorya, wala man daw siya lain na chix (thanks goodness), sige lang daw siya basket, online games. aburido daw siya kay wala siya work. nagger daw ko mao. ana ko, alangan mo nag kung walay sayup. amo bb tua sa ilaha para ma remind siya permi nga amahan na siya. agwanta lang gyud tawn ko, support ug understand lang niya nga unta mabag o siya. hahayz. kapoy baya sad ning mag mahal ta noh. hehe

Make him commit to whatever you agreed upon.
Let him promise.
Check if he kept his promise from time to time.
If he has not, Remind him again or
Make him keep his promise.

[KASAAC]

^listen to soul doctor he'll take good care of your heart

[yvonne6]

naka realize man pud ko nga its possible nga nag self pity pud siya atong times na wala siyay work kay inutil kaau iya feeling sa iya kaugalingon. unta maka amgo na. sa ako part, try sad nako nga di nako siya ma nag. maka sapot man sad kaau gud. happy kau amo baby kana makita ming duha. ani lang ta permi. hehe

[smartkid]

i see no reason why you should keep that relationship with him. His moves showed that he had already given up on you....and for a long time already i guess.

[yvonne6]

Quote: Originally Posted by smartkid i see no reason why you should keep that relationship with him. His moves showed that he had already given up on you....and for a long time already i guess.

dili man gyud ni mawala ang badlongon nga lalaki. gaan lang chance kay ni promise man nga mag bag o. well ug di gyud siya mabago, niya raman gihapon balik tanan. it may cause me pain pero dili mana makamatay na sakit. for now, gaan lang sag chance, mabaw an ra bitaw na ug d gyud mo keep ang taw sa promise

[KASAAC]

^sakto jud na imu sis everybody deserves a second chance...hope na he'll take his words seriously and not just for the sake of getting the second chance and your forgiveness, anyway as the saying goes...what comes around goes around so nothing to worry