Giving money to your parents?

[the_guardian]

sa akong case oblige ko nga mo-hatag para sa akong mama since of her condition...bisan pa ganing minyo ko mag-hatag gihapon ko since 2 rami nga naa work...pero sa akong father kana lang if mo-hangyo cya...

[diem]

Quote: Originally Posted by yanypie do u think its a must for u to give money to your parents now that u have ur own job? please share your thoughts... for me its not a must pero i want to help them man sad sa kalisod sa life sa pinas... and since single pa man ko, ok ra kay wala pa man lain gigastuhan aside from myself... hehehe

It's a must if you're still single and you're still living under their roof. If that is your case then you must contribute to the daily cost of living like electricity, water, groceries et cetera.

Even if it is not the case, I still feel that adult, working children should give money to the parents or at least be able to help them ease their lives as the parents grow older. One can consider it as love while at the same time, earning good karma. Wouldn't one want the same thing to happen when one grows older, wouldn't one want to have devoted children who can be approached for help even as they're busy adults?

It is a good thing to do and doing good things bring good rewards.

Please consider this Old Testament passage from the book of Exodus in the Holy Bible.

Quote: “Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land the Lord your God is giving you."

That's one of the Ten Commandments, the 4th actually, and see how it's phrased.

What's interesting about this is that this is only one of three commandments out of the 10 that after the instruction, there's the description of what will be the effect of following the instruction. The first commandment to be phrased in action-consequence is the first commandment where you must love and honor God only OR else the sins of the parents upon their children; the entire family is affected—even children in the third and fourth generations of those who reject [God]. And the second commandment when one should not use God's name in vain or else, God will not let you go unpunished if you misuse God's name.

What makes the 4th commandment unique from the other two is that the first two commandments, its action then the punishment in very negative terms.

However in the 4th, the action is followed by reward so it's been said that the fourth commandment is the only commandment stated with a promise of reward not retribution.

So honor your parents, help them to the best of your abilities. Show them your care and your love, giving money is only one of those ways to show your care. God or Karma or the Universe will reward you. A positive action often creates positive results.

For your kind consideration.

[shiira]

ako maghatag jud ko..ever since katong nagskwela pa ko kay mao jud na akong dream na mkatabang ko sa akong parents...dli man gud mi datu but nakita nako sa akong parents na amidst our poverty kay tarong jud mi pagpadako nila..so karon nga nagwork nako, i shoulder most of the gastos sa family..actually, some people i know may not believe this, but i find joy and satisfaction when ever i can do something for my family..nindot kau ang feeling na naka ease ka sa kalisud ba..nya i always make it a point to buy them something once in a while

nkabantay lang ko ba, others who are earning much compared sa ilang parents kay murag hambog na kaau.murag kung unsa ang ilang gusto mao jud dapat ang masunod..murag iblackmail ang fact na sila ang nagbuhi sa family, which i cant imagine myself doing..though naa times murag malain ko sa akong parents whenever dli ko sugtan laag sa layo and all, still dali raman gud ko mkalimot ana nga mga butang..so karon i spend most of my time with my other siblings..kami2 ra laag nya palit ko groceries every sweldo then hatag pa para rent sa house and hatag kwarta para palit libro and other misc stuff sa mga nagskwela nako nga manghud..wahhhhh..

all in all, the feeling is quite good bya bisan na igo ra ko mkagunit sa akong kwarta nya hanaw na dayon..wahahhaaha

[Soul Doctor]

Quote: Originally Posted by yanypie do u think its a must for u to give money to your parents now that u have ur own job? please share your thoughts... for me its not a must pero i want to help them man sad sa kalisod sa life sa pinas... and since single pa man ko, ok ra kay wala pa man lain gigastuhan aside from myself... hehehe

As a single person, you have to manage your finances well.

A.)You must have a savings.

Para kini sa imong kaugalingon
pananglit masakit ka
or mawad-an kag trabaho
or maminyo ka nga kinahanglan kag kwarta inig panganak ba ron.
Set aside at least 10% of your income.

B.) You must invest.
You should use part of your income to business.
If wala kay business, ideposit sa banko para moearn og interest.
Set aside another 10% for business.

C.) You must have charity.
Now this charity can be in any form.
There's a saying that charity begins at home.
So before ka manghatag sa uban, hatagi usa ang imong family.
Set aside 10-20%. But not more than that,
kay magsalig na na sila nimo pirmi.
Matapulan ug dili maningkamot og ila ang imong mga igsoon.

D.)Spending money.
Ang sobra imong bahinon sa mga butang nga importante sama sa daily expenses.
Utilities. Rent. Car or transpo. Food. Toiletries.
The rest para sa imong kaugalingon. Sinina, Spa, makeup etc.

[ceevzi]

it's not a must but malo-oy man sad ko sa ako mama,oi...plus naa ko mga haf bros. nag skwela..sa una pa na single ko hatag jud ko ana niya 'til karon na minyo ko maski mahal gatas sa ako anak ngita jud ko ways na makahatag ko maski gamay but my mama understand man sad na dili na jud parehas sa una na daga pa ko ako mahatag niya... magu-ol na jud ko if manawag na nga maghilak..sahay ala ko kuarta mangutang ko para sa ako mama..huhuhu..karon wala sa ko mo text nila kay basin mo ingon na pud wala na bawn mga bata..huhu...asa napud ko ani padung. bahala nalang basta healthy lang sila.

[topaz]

ako kay oblige ko.. my parents are no longer working naman gud but i gave them little to fund a small business and that's what were trying to work out right now....i'm also trying to save for my parents for emergencies like medicine and stuff

[DyslexicHeart]

Kalami sa feeling nga muhatag ka sa imong ginikinan kahuman nakit-an nimo nga lipay kaayo sila sa imo...

[sirius]

ako kay never gyud intawon, hehehe

[florascent]

Muhatag japon ko sako parents partly sako sweldo maski single mom nako and though naa tagsa2x business ako parents. Partly lang kay naa pako 3 yr old preschooler na gi-supportaan solely. Tabang2x lang pod ba sa expenses sa blay like monthly bills and sa yaya. Maikog pod bya ko kay partly raman or half ra sako sweldo ako mahatag. Unlike king single ka, maka-largo2x jud kag hatag hapit full sa imo sweldo kada 15th day. Malipay naman pod ako parents about ana. Mas maikog gani sila modawat usahay kada hatag nako kay kabaw sila na ako pa maggasto sa tnan2x sako anak kay wa jud support iya papa maski a single cent wa jud.

[PazzieGirl]

How I wish I could give money to my parents... I also want to help them... I want to spoil them gani... But how? If among income is kulang ra sad for us... Well, I pray jud someday I could bring them somewhere nga ako ang mogasto... heheheh! At least I thought of it... Its the thought that counts nlng muna... to follow sa ang actions for this ha. hehehe! =)

[s_an_e]

yes, its one way of saying thank you for everything. for the chance that i've studied in very expensive(para nako mahal ang ako school) and prestigious schools diri. dli lalim magpaskwela ug mga anak. now, naa nako work, its a good way of helping them. love pd baya nato ang ato parents!

[chenggay!!!]

it depends on the situation. if they are living a very comfortable life. then u must not give money, instead buy them gifts or send them to trips or do something thoughtful kay maappreciate na nila.

but if galisud intawn! then by all means YES YES YES!

[mogul]

yes give ko. even sa akong pag ojt first cheque nako gihatag nko sa akong parents. karun give ghpon pero sa maintenance na sa among balay.murag mahulog nmn ang bongbong mahal nasad mga tambal sa mama.

a share sa akong kita ako ihatag and if muuli ko dadan nko clag krispy kreme!wehehe (naa nbay krispy kreme sa cebu?) . gamayng kalipay lang.sunod kay auto pero murag layo pa.

[Ljane]

ako kai dili ko mohatag na.... monthly bills ra akoa...naa man sad ko older brothers who are single nga naa work....kang papa kai 100 ra kada sweldo naku, hehehe, 100 raman yah pangayoon

[kiekim]

dats perfectly fine,di rana katunga sa mga sakripisyo ila gibuhat sa amoa...loved them both so much....pero kung wala ko ikatunol ok ra man pud sila...